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 Posted: Mon Jun 29, 2009 5:56 pm
It has been my experience that people often hide their feelings, before letting it all out at once. However, some beings complain and keep their problems known to others. So here's the debate: Which solution to this scenario do you think is better?
A--You're going through a tough patch. You don't want anyone to think you are weak, so you keep it to yourself, suffering through it on your own. You "bottle" your feelings up, so that you have the illusion that you are happy and carefree while amonst the public.
If the person causing the problem is a close friend/relative then you keep it to yourself, hoping it will get better in time.
B--You're having a hard time. Knowing there is someone who cares about you, even in the smallest way, you tell them your worries and problems. They might even be able to help.
If they are the problem, maybe the solution is as simple as talking to them about it. You let them know as soon as you start to feel negatively about life.
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Posted: Mon Jun 29, 2009 8:32 pm
I have submitted my vote, but on the inside you know which path you must walk.
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Posted: Wed Jul 08, 2009 2:21 pm
Solution B is definitely the better one, but I have ot admit that I'm a Solution A person.
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Posted: Thu Jul 09, 2009 10:35 am
I find that at the present time of the problem, it's easier to keep it secret and hidden, but it always has long term effects that are really bad.
Solution B seems to be better, but if you're constantly having the same problem, each time you complain, it's less effective and eventually the person you tell about your problems will be tired of them. So it seems to me that option A is, in some ways, better.
Yet, if you keep it to yourself, the argument is going to be worse later and can permanently damage the relationship.
I don't know which side I agree with; I only know I am a Solution A person...
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Posted: Thu Jul 09, 2009 6:42 pm
Then you need someone who won't get tried of listening to your problems, or if the do they will keep listening anyway because they are your friend.
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Posted: Fri Jul 17, 2009 5:09 pm
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Posted: Sun Aug 02, 2009 12:18 pm
I would have to say that solution B is definitely the one people should choose, however I don't think many people will. Artists -writers, painters, cartoonists, etc.- I know are solution A type people, myself included. I don't know why, but I suspect that having a way to express ourselves the way we choose to gives an escape or release from those problems, so it's easier to keep them inside and not think about them.
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Posted: Thu Aug 13, 2009 3:21 am
Actually, I think that a lot of extroverts would choose option B. It's definitely the better option, and while most of us more artistic, introverted types tend to opt for the "bottled up" method of coping, I really doubt that not many people would choose to vent. No matter who you are, I think we all need some way of releasing pent up emotion. There's a quote I once heard that states how human beings are the most dangerous type of animal, because they have no organized, ritualized method of releasing aggression. For those who don't write, paint, draw, dance, etc., there needs to be a verbal expulsion of emotional duress. Otherwise, we'd all snap under the pressure.
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Posted: Thu Aug 13, 2009 8:41 am
I don't write stories as much as I used to and I have no artistic talent so I tend to write out my feelings in journal entries. I just recently went back through my hand-written journal and realized that in the beginning I wrote a lot about my feelings, but as the entries progressed, I saw that I was becoming less stressed, less angry, less depressed. Looking back really helped me to realize that we do all need an outlet, probably already have an outlet. Even those who don't do the creative activites have sports, and friends, and other ways that they let out the problems in their life.
I still believe that people keep their problems to themselves, like a way to protect themselves, but I also think that they do have a way to let it out, they just have to find it. It's hard to think of what people do when they can't find a way to let their thoughts and feelings known...
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