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 Posted: Thu Jun 18, 2009 9:33 pm
so i just got out of a 6 month relationship with a guy. the main reasons a broke up with him was because i wasn't happy with him anymore, and all my romantic feelins for him had gone. i did this to my last boyfriend too. i also have a reputation for being a bit cruel and icy.
well, two weeks ago, i attended a friend's graduation, where her boyfriend--let's call him R--pulled me aside to tell me a guy--let's call him D--has a crush on me, even though he's only seen me two times, let alone talked to me. R then told me what a "great guy" D was, but that he was shy. R adds that D will be going to L.A. for two weeks, and basically gave me an ultimatium on "what to do about it" by the end of the two weeks. D had no idea R did any of this, and has said nothing about it to me HIMSELF.
as if this wasn't enough, on monday i was hanging with my two best friends, when we ended up hanging out with another guy--i'll call him J. Since we were in the back seat of my friend's car most of the time, we ended up talking--i'll admit i was flirting a little--and at the end of the night, J dropped hints that he was interested in me and wanted my number. i ened up giving it to him in a pm that he sent me first with his own number. he then texted me saying that he would like to see a movie sometime with me, R, and R's girlfriend--my best friend. When i told my friend about it, she agreed that it sounded fishy considering that i had just met the guy monday night, and added that R didn't like J all that much.
given my history with guys, i worry that if i start a relationship with either of them, i might just end up hurting whichever one i choose months from now, when i realize i don't like them anymore. also, i'm not even sure i'm ready to start anything with anyone--i don't like dating guys back to back.
sorry this is so long, but as you can see, i'm a bit stuck. help?
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Posted: Sat Jun 27, 2009 7:19 pm
I need to retake algebra.
For all we know, 'R,' could be lying about 'D,' for his own entertainment.
However, as a wallflower myself, I really am not sure.
But, I am a wallflower with an ego, so that may disqualify me from empathizing with D.
If you're looking for a relationship, I'd suggest J, but if not, just tell them all that you aren't interested right now.
Please note that there is a 50 or 60% chance that I have no idea what I'm talking about.
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Posted: Wed Jun 09, 2010 11:15 pm
I have the same issue as Harujiro, I'm a bit of a wallflower I probably don't know what I'm talking about.
But If you like one or the other date them, if you don't care for either of them them drop it. Maybe you could get to know both of them a little better.
And I really don't think it's a big deal to loose interest. If you no longer have feelings for someone you shouldn't have to stay with them just because they haven't moved on yet.
Odds are you'll have to date like thirty guys before you find one you can say you really love. This isn't a movie, you don't need to make it a drama. I think you should date who you want for as long as you want or not at all. The feeling will come when it comes, you have absolutely no control over it.
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