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Being the person I am, I tend to offend, annoy, and whatever haves you, when I speak too much. I then, shush and watch for a long time, and venture out again with some more knowledge. I realize something recently...

You can't be friends with everybody.


Even if no one has a particular reason to NOT like other people.


I'm sure many of you have realized this, but... really. Honestly. What the hell. People talk about each other behind their backs, and "don't like them"... "just because"...? Apparently, because this one particular girl didn't like me, she tried getting others to not like me, and only got an RA to hate me ... just cause. No real reason. Just dumb crap. And has an agenda against me and my lovely.

What have we done?
1) tried to stay away
2) move out of that room
3) not be rude/mean/etc.

But, I guess, defriending on facebook when you learn they're talking about you and being snobbish to your face is enough to warrant this ... deep hatred... for some reason.

Anyway.

Some people were talking about this a week or ago or so, and I just said,

"If you don't talk about other people with them, they'll talk about you."

Which, pretty much sums up what my social theory is...

If you don't gossip with people about other people they don't like, they'll gossip about you and get other people to not like you.

note: I'm not saying this is true for everyone. Just. A lot of people who seem to have nothing better to do. o.O ?

Soooo...

what social trends/theories/experiences/etc. do you guys have?

A-are you in high school? Because high school is a rather special social situation, it gets way better after that when hormones settle down a little and you're not forced to spend 6-8 hours a day together with people you would otherwise not give a s**t about.

Actually, high school was much more relaxed.


This is my third year of college.


And people at work tend to do the same thing.

Adults waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay older.

I lol because I've seen people hate eachother for months, become best friends again for a while, then gossip gossip, hate hate, love love, etc.


It's some sort of weird circle that I don't want to be in, so I refuse to "let it be the past" and pretend to be friendly. I ignore people. That upsets them more than talking behind their back, I think.

The RA girl with the nasty attitude now is just on a power trip she's about to lose. (She's not going to be an RA anymore).

And she is also one of those weird gossipy psychonuts.


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I make posts generally when I'm at work... in the wee mornings. So I probably sound like a dolt when I post.
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I don't think it's possible for anyone to escape the claws of gossip. I have been gossiped about and I'm like the most boring person you could meet IRL. I think a lot of gossip is judgmental talk for people who are either jealous of your accomplishments, or thoroughly agitated by you, or both.

It's like a poor person who talks smack about a richer person, without considering how much hard work or sacrifice was put into their well-earned success. Or insecure women talking trash about a beautiful and confident girl, to make themselves feel better.

Or, maybe you've overlooked something that's been bothering the people who have issues with you.

Either way, it means you're a memorable person. If you weren't, you wouldn't be worth talking about.