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 Posted: Thu May 07, 2009 1:49 pm
Michael is deploying in less than a month. I realize it'll probably take them a little while to get where they need to be at, overseas. When will he get the address for where he'll be, though? He's got like, 3 weeks 'til he deploys. But... when does he get the address for where he'll be at? Will it take a few weeks after he gets overseas, before he gets address and gets it to me? Will he find out before he goes?
My airforce friend found out before he left. Plus, he's online all the time. I know there's a difference in branches but...
what can I expect the first month he's gone?
*edited to add more thoughts*
You know... this is STILL all very surreal. He's going to be in the field this week, and there wont' be very good, if any, cellphone service out there in the field. And I leave in 8 days to go see him for a week, before he deploys. And I just don't know what I'm going to do with him gone for 9 - 10 months. I mean, I'll handle it. I'll deal with it. Because I want to be with him.
I feel kind of lost and uncertain right now.
What happens at the end of deployment? Does he stay overseas until the day he's supposed to deactivate? I've heard of something called demobilization. Does Michael go through that? When DOES Michael go through that? Is that AFTER he deactivates?
I'm lost, ladies. And frankly, I'm scared.
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Posted: Thu May 07, 2009 6:20 pm
Ok, when my husband deployed, I didn't get his address until he had been there a few weeks.
When they leave, they go to Kuwait or a staging area for anything from a week to a month, then they will go on to their destination, at which point they will have an address to give you.
On the way home, its pretty much that in reverse.
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Posted: Thu May 07, 2009 7:57 pm
Is it normal to feel so scared and lost?
Michael is such a huge part of me, and a huge part of my life. I just... being without him for such a long time is going to render me unstable.
I'm just so worried.
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Posted: Thu May 07, 2009 8:17 pm
Pretty much.
I went through it, at first it is like you are in mourning, at least it was for me.
The first couple weeks are hard, but then you almost get used to it, you adjust.
My main philosophy is Adapt and Survive.
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Posted: Thu May 07, 2009 8:59 pm
I don't want to adapt to this. I don't want to become used to Michael being away from me.
I'll survive it... but I don't want this to become familiar to me.
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Posted: Thu May 07, 2009 9:34 pm
What e_m said. They leave, go to their staging area and then their final destination. I believe Reggie had been gone for 3 1/2 weeks before we spoke and he had an address to give me.
Reggie has had 4 different address changes since he's been in Iraq. I don't think thats very common though and nothing to worry about.
Its normal to feel that way. Reggie is my life now. I left everything I've ever known just to spend two weeks with him before he deployed. I was sad and scared when he left but, I knew I could survive without him. It was very taxing on me, my emotions, everything, it didn't help the way he left either.
There are only a few months left and I can say I've grown up a lot from him being gone. I've figured out that I don't always need him to fix something for me, I can do it myself. Its very empowering. Its also made me appreciate him more, all the things he used to do for me that I didn't even realize, and
--I was left in AK with no money, no access to the money, a suitcase, and an empy house. I literally had to do everything by myself. Get furniture, unpack, get our stuff shipped to AK from KS, get our vehicle decals, get housing information. I can go on and on and on.
I don't know what to tell you about his leaving becoming familiar to you. If he's making a career out of the military you almost have to. They will be gone frequently and being a military SO you know that and have to understand that its their job. There is really no way to get around the fact that they will be gone for extended periods of time and you have to get used to it.
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Posted: Thu May 07, 2009 9:38 pm
It's not that you get used to it, or that it becomes normal, but you have to adapt or you won't make it. Some wives go crazy, literally.
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