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 Posted: Mon Mar 16, 2009 9:10 pm
My apparent ex-girlfriend posted in the Life Issues forum here on Gaia, and she thinks I'm pushing her back into the relationship, threatening to kill myself, and STALKING her. stare I don't know what I'm doing to stalk her, but she has me on her ignore list on every website possible. I asked my best friend, who is also a good friend of hers, and she has no idea why she broke up with me. I may be suicidal, but that's because I'm bipolar. It comes naturally. Can someone tell me what I should do?
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Posted: Mon Mar 16, 2009 10:53 pm
Oi, I can't stand when ex's claim that the other is stalking them when its not the case.
Are you trying to force her back into a relationship or stalking her? I really don't know what you're doing, like are you obsessively trying to talk to her, or anything like that? If so, then just back off, obviously she thinks that is stalking. I know, it's hard to back off and leave the unanswered questions unanswered... but sometimes you just don't get an answer to the questions you seek answers for, at least not right away.
If you're not trying to talk to her all the time like all day long, then I'm really at a loss of ideas on why should would be saying this except for attention. People get more attention if they claim to have a stalker.
Either way, if she has yet to give you an answer as to why, and is being dramatic, etc, then maybe she isn't worth your time. I know that's kind of harsh of me to say, but she sounds to me like she is being dramatic and taking a lot of effort to sever all communications with you... In return, try to ignore her. If she see's that you aren't caring that she is being a complete a**, then eventually she will stop because it's not fun to be an a** when the person doesn't care. Make sense?
That's just what I got from what you said... I really dont know the whole story, I have no access to this girl, nor her story... All I know is that she is hurting you, and I'm sorry that she is. Breakup's suck, they hurt... But everyone can pull through them in the end. And in the end you will be that much stronger.
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Posted: Mon Mar 16, 2009 11:01 pm
I simply want to be her friend, and she won't allow it.
That's a good idea. I just can't ignore her, because I still love her somehow, but just as a friend.
She's hurting me really bad. Thank you. You're very kind.
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Posted: Mon Mar 16, 2009 11:32 pm
Well maybe eventually she will decide that she wants to be friends.... Just give her a bit of space, and time. Sometimes time is the best solution.
Even if you don't ignore her, just don't let her know that you aren't ignoring her. If you wanna read and listen to what she is doing, then go for it. But don't let her know that what she says and does effects you.
I understand that she is hurting you really bad. I seem to not be being very sympathetic today, and I apologize for that. There is nothing I can say that will make it hurt less. I wish I could take the pain away, but I can't.
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Posted: Tue Mar 17, 2009 12:11 am
Probably not, though. She's acting like I committed a federal crime by being on the same website as her.
Okay.
It's okay. We all have those kinds of days. I wish that anybody could take the pain away, but they can't. My heart's shattered, and it's too impossible to take away the excruciating pain.
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Posted: Tue Mar 17, 2009 3:34 pm
I tried to post last night, but I couldn't. Sorry.
Maybe the best way to ease your pain is to just ignore HER for a little while. I know how it feels to be all hung up over someone, but the more you feed that, the longer it will last. Try making some new friends, finding new activities online and stuff like that. I know it will take a long time for you to get it through your own head, but a bad breakup isn't the end of the world.
Just to lay my cards on the table, let me tell you that I'm speaking from experience. I only ever fell once and I was dumped the very day my family became homeless. I had to deal with that, the question of how my family could stay fed and sheltered as well as voices in my head which had a habit of waking me up at night and telling me to kill myself.
I know what you're going through, having a bad breakup mixed with suicidal ideation. So long as you read the suicide crisis thread, treat it like some folks treat the Bible and follow the above advice, I KNOW your pain won't last too long.
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Posted: Wed Mar 18, 2009 6:22 pm
Absolute Paranoia Probably not, though. She's acting like I committed a federal crime by being on the same website as her. Okay. It's okay. We all have those kinds of days. I wish that anybody could take the pain away, but they can't. My heart's shattered, and it's too impossible to take away the excruciating pain. Eh well lets face it, people can be dramatic little brats sometimes. She is being dramatic. Don't let her drama effect your life - Stay on gaia, we love you here. Stay on other sites you are on, again, people enjoy you. Just ignore her on those sites. If she is on you friend's friend lists, and is leaving comments or whatever on their profiles, etc, just ignore her. Like I said, when she realizes that what she says doesn't seem to effect you, she will stop. Because it's not fun to be a dramatic brat when the person you are trying to hurt doesn't seem to care. Now I know, and you know, that it doesn't mean you really don't care. It just means that you are pretending to not care. You are more than willing to come here to have a shoulder to cry on so to speak, cause we all know you will care. Never hesitate to post here, or PM one of the people of this guild if you need someone to talk to. We are all here for you. As far as relationships go... I've never officially been in a relationship. Hard to find someone who is as asexual as me. But I have lost a lot of friends, had one person take every one of my friends in high school... I had to ignore what they said, and it hurt me everyday that I went to school and they would try to bully me (The people who used to protect me from bullies aka my "Friends" were now the bullies), and I would just ignore them and walk away. In the end, they stopped, and I grew stronger in the process. I know that you can get stronger, and I know that you can get through this. And as far as my sounding unsympathetic, i really am sympathetic... I just cant seem to come across that way. I really do want to be there for you, cause I know that it's gonna be a rough patch in your life. But you can do it, I know you can.
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Posted: Wed Mar 18, 2009 7:57 pm
-Sniffle-Doodle- Absolute Paranoia Probably not, though. She's acting like I committed a federal crime by being on the same website as her. Okay. It's okay. We all have those kinds of days. I wish that anybody could take the pain away, but they can't. My heart's shattered, and it's too impossible to take away the excruciating pain. Eh well lets face it, people can be dramatic little brats sometimes. She is being dramatic. Don't let her drama effect your life - Stay on gaia, we love you here. Stay on other sites you are on, again, people enjoy you. Just ignore her on those sites. If she is on you friend's friend lists, and is leaving comments or whatever on their profiles, etc, just ignore her. Like I said, when she realizes that what she says doesn't seem to effect you, she will stop. Because it's not fun to be a dramatic brat when the person you are trying to hurt doesn't seem to care. Now I know, and you know, that it doesn't mean you really don't care. It just means that you are pretending to not care. You are more than willing to come here to have a shoulder to cry on so to speak, cause we all know you will care. Never hesitate to post here, or PM one of the people of this guild if you need someone to talk to. We are all here for you. As far as relationships go... I've never officially been in a relationship. Hard to find someone who is as asexual as me. But I have lost a lot of friends, had one person take every one of my friends in high school... I had to ignore what they said, and it hurt me everyday that I went to school and they would try to bully me (The people who used to protect me from bullies aka my "Friends" were now the bullies), and I would just ignore them and walk away. In the end, they stopped, and I grew stronger in the process. I know that you can get stronger, and I know that you can get through this. And as far as my sounding unsympathetic, i really am sympathetic... I just cant seem to come across that way. I really do want to be there for you, cause I know that it's gonna be a rough patch in your life. But you can do it, I know you can. Okay. That sounds like a good plan for me. I'm really sorry about those bullies. It sounds like you were really strong in the first place. It's okay. I can't sounds sympathetic a lot, either. Thank you for all your help!
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Posted: Wed Mar 18, 2009 8:13 pm
Absolute Paranoia Okay. That sounds like a good plan for me. I'm really sorry about those bullies. It sounds like you were really strong in the first place. It's okay. I can't sounds sympathetic a lot, either. Thank you for all your help! No need to be sorry. But you are incorrect, I was not strong to begin with. Just had to force myself to be because it was either be strong, or drop out, and my mom wouldn't let me drop out that year (Dropped out a year later), but my only other option was to just be strong at school, ignore everyone, and go home where I could just carry on with my life. Heh, I can either be super sympathetic, or not at all... Well sound like it at least. Lately I have been coming off as an unsympathetic p***k. It's really not the case though just wanted to make that clear for you. Really am sorry about the girlfriend, but we are here for you. You are very welcome, by the way
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Posted: Wed Mar 18, 2009 8:21 pm
-Sniffle-Doodle- Absolute Paranoia Okay. That sounds like a good plan for me. I'm really sorry about those bullies. It sounds like you were really strong in the first place. It's okay. I can't sounds sympathetic a lot, either. Thank you for all your help! No need to be sorry. But you are incorrect, I was not strong to begin with. Just had to force myself to be because it was either be strong, or drop out, and my mom wouldn't let me drop out that year (Dropped out a year later), but my only other option was to just be strong at school, ignore everyone, and go home where I could just carry on with my life. Heh, I can either be super sympathetic, or not at all... Well sound like it at least. Lately I have been coming off as an unsympathetic p***k. It's really not the case though just wanted to make that clear for you. Really am sorry about the girlfriend, but we are here for you. You are very welcome, by the way Really? I'd never be able to do that! Thanks again. 3nodding By the way, my only friends left want to join this guild, too. They're just like me.
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Posted: Wed Mar 18, 2009 8:26 pm
Absolute Paranoia -Sniffle-Doodle- Absolute Paranoia Okay. That sounds like a good plan for me. I'm really sorry about those bullies. It sounds like you were really strong in the first place. It's okay. I can't sounds sympathetic a lot, either. Thank you for all your help! No need to be sorry. But you are incorrect, I was not strong to begin with. Just had to force myself to be because it was either be strong, or drop out, and my mom wouldn't let me drop out that year (Dropped out a year later), but my only other option was to just be strong at school, ignore everyone, and go home where I could just carry on with my life. Heh, I can either be super sympathetic, or not at all... Well sound like it at least. Lately I have been coming off as an unsympathetic p***k. It's really not the case though just wanted to make that clear for you. Really am sorry about the girlfriend, but we are here for you. You are very welcome, by the way Really? I'd never be able to do that! Thanks again. 3nodding By the way, my only friends left want to join this guild, too. They're just like me. Well either they can request to join (I will check the requests after I post this) or you can send me their gaia names and I will send them an invite. We'd love to have them. (:
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Posted: Wed Mar 18, 2009 8:28 pm
-Sniffle-Doodle- Absolute Paranoia -Sniffle-Doodle- Absolute Paranoia Okay. That sounds like a good plan for me. I'm really sorry about those bullies. It sounds like you were really strong in the first place. It's okay. I can't sounds sympathetic a lot, either. Thank you for all your help! No need to be sorry. But you are incorrect, I was not strong to begin with. Just had to force myself to be because it was either be strong, or drop out, and my mom wouldn't let me drop out that year (Dropped out a year later), but my only other option was to just be strong at school, ignore everyone, and go home where I could just carry on with my life. Heh, I can either be super sympathetic, or not at all... Well sound like it at least. Lately I have been coming off as an unsympathetic p***k. It's really not the case though just wanted to make that clear for you. Really am sorry about the girlfriend, but we are here for you. You are very welcome, by the way Really? I'd never be able to do that! Thanks again. 3nodding By the way, my only friends left want to join this guild, too. They're just like me. Well either they can request to join (I will check the requests after I post this) or you can send me their gaia names and I will send them an invite. We'd love to have them. (: Okay! ^_^ SuchABeautifulNightmare is one of them, I think she requested, and Mana Is Eternity is the other friend. By the way, if you can get my main account in, that'd be nice. e.e My main is Rose of Luna.
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Posted: Wed Mar 18, 2009 8:41 pm
Absolute Paranoia -Sniffle-Doodle- Absolute Paranoia -Sniffle-Doodle- Absolute Paranoia Okay. That sounds like a good plan for me. I'm really sorry about those bullies. It sounds like you were really strong in the first place. It's okay. I can't sounds sympathetic a lot, either. Thank you for all your help! No need to be sorry. But you are incorrect, I was not strong to begin with. Just had to force myself to be because it was either be strong, or drop out, and my mom wouldn't let me drop out that year (Dropped out a year later), but my only other option was to just be strong at school, ignore everyone, and go home where I could just carry on with my life. Heh, I can either be super sympathetic, or not at all... Well sound like it at least. Lately I have been coming off as an unsympathetic p***k. It's really not the case though just wanted to make that clear for you. Really am sorry about the girlfriend, but we are here for you. You are very welcome, by the way Really? I'd never be able to do that! Thanks again. 3nodding By the way, my only friends left want to join this guild, too. They're just like me. Well either they can request to join (I will check the requests after I post this) or you can send me their gaia names and I will send them an invite. We'd love to have them. (: Okay! ^_^ SuchABeautifulNightmare is one of them, I think she requested, and Mana Is Eternity is the other friend. By the way, if you can get my main account in, that'd be nice. e.e My main is Rose of Luna. Invited your two friends, and your main. Just waiting for the accepting of the request now (:
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Posted: Wed Mar 18, 2009 8:43 pm
Like I said before, just ignore her and give it time... I have been talking to her in ims, and I tell you everything she says. She's a b***h.. and you deserve better.. -hugs-
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Posted: Wed Mar 18, 2009 8:54 pm
SuchABeautifulNightmare Like I said before, just ignore her and give it time... I have been talking to her in ims, and I tell you everything she says. She's a b***h.. and you deserve better.. -hugs- *hugs* Really? o.o;; You're a great friend. e.e Yay, I'm on my main! ^_^ Thank you, Sniffle Doodle!
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