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I apologize ahead of the time for the language:


I'm friends (let's call her Tammy) with the most narcissistic girl alive.
She only talks about herself; she only cares about herself.
It's always "I look so gorgeous today."
I mean, self-confidence is nice;
but.
when you keep repeating yourself until someone takes notice,
it gets a bit out of hand.

It's not like I can tell her any of this, either.
Because you know what she'll do?
She'll run off to all of her friends (most of which are my friends) and BAWWWW and then all my friends will be mad at me and yell at me with "____ is so awesome, you're such a b***h!" because apparently I'm the only person with a brain and the ability to see how she ******** treats people.

I've given her hints all the time that I'm either mad at her or I don't wish to speak to her.
But she just thinks I'm having a moment (mood swings, and yes, I'm getting therapy) and that overall there's nothing wrong.

Another dilemma, she's in a few of my classes during the day.
And I HAVE to interact with her during these classes as part of the class and because we sit with other friends .___.'
So it's not like I can just stop talking to her.

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So there was this girl, let's name her... Monica (for lack of a better name).
Tammy had always, always, always talked crap about Monica without even knowing her. About two weeks ago I had mentioned something about talking to Monica.
And guess what?

They're like, ******** best friends now. And I would feel wrong telling Monica that Tammy has said all that crap about her.
Because then I would be just as hypocritical in trying to sabotage their relationship.

Last but certainly not least, Tammy keeps copying me.
When the Twilight craze was just beginning she was ******** obsessed.
She read all the books and was like, in love with it.
I mentioned that I wasn't really into it/thought it was stupid.
And now she cracks on it all the time.
But on her MySpace she still has "the twilight series" listed under Books.


What can I do.
I mean, I guess I'm going to have to try as hard as possible to schedule my classes opposite of hers next year.
We're even going to the same ******** college.
But hopefully by then I will be married and living with my husband and not have to be in a dorm room with her.
Otherwise, I'd go insane.



Serious advice only, please.
None of this "Just kill her."
Because I'm far too nice and I don't want to go to jail.

Slowly distancing yourself is a good idea. I'd like to tell you to just straight up say that you don't like her, but then she'll turn your other friends against you. I had a friend the same way. We'll call her Kassie. She would always try to converge the conversation about what she wanted to talk about. If someone went to change the subject, she would belatently ignore them and keep talking. Fortunatly all my friends got smart about her at about the same time, So when I said. "We heard you, Kassie, no one cares about that. I was talking." They all laughed. We just all started to ignore her after that, and she got some new friends (who didn't like her much either.) This probably doesn't help you... Just letting you know you're not the first person to start to hate a friend.

Congrats, I hope it continues on smoothly for you.