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 Posted: Fri Feb 20, 2009 3:40 pm
Why is it now that whenever I think I've got it this time I don't?
I swear, I totally and completely hate my life right now. Other then the fact that my bestest best friend came back to school today, that made me happy.
Ok. So my boyfriend and I have been together for over two years...I loved him to death, and I still do, just it's changed recently because he seems to be getting less and less thoughtful about what he's going to do. It's just one minute he's the smartest and sweetest guy out there, then the next we're arguing and I've got people asking me why I don't just break up with him...I love him yeah, and he's my first like everything. But he just gets on my nerves anymore, and that's all that it feels like he does. I do love him. But I don't want him. I've just recently ended our sexual relationship because I'm only sixteen and I don't want to have to worry about or deal with the possibility of the consequences. I want to keep him, but I don't. The only problem is if I don't stay with him, it's going to take me forever to get out of the cycle of always having him around and being close to him and stuff like that.
We've broken up a time or two before, and the last time we did, it ended up horrifically. I told him I would go back to him I just needed a couple months to sort everything out and he said that was fine and he'd wait for me. Because, being me, naturally I wanted to go out with other people and see what it was like because he's my first official boyfriend. And I just wanted to see what other people were like. So I started dating this guy who's been my bestfriend for like ever.....BAD MISTAKE!!! Don't do it.
So that lasted about three days......then after I broke up with him, my ex at the time, got together with this girl who is ok I guess, but I don't really like her, she thinks she's all that and like it just was wrong. He said that he'd wait for me, and take me back with open arms. He lied. He got with her, I, naturally for me began to act like a child, threw a fit, cried, and got him back. Which was the wrong thing to do, but now I just don't know what to do.
If you have any type of advice for me, please share it, I'm desperate for advice now.......
EDIT!:
I was just talking to him on the phone a few minutes ago and I learned something that made me cry, he was taking pills that makes sure that the female can't get pregnant. And it says that if you take them to long the male might not be able to have kids. And he risked that all for me....With this bit of information, I still would like some advice, but take this into consideration now.
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Posted: Sat Feb 21, 2009 9:07 am
I'm really sorry I can't help you, It's just beyond my depths to be able to give you advice. Other than thinking LONG and HARD about it, I can't help you... crying
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Jamais Changeant Vice Captain
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Posted: Sun Mar 15, 2009 1:43 am
I certainly understand how you feel with the first part. My guy of a long time has those mood swings too. I think it's because...well, he's still growing up. I'm nineteen though, and he's twenty going on twenty-one. We're living together and that's put some stress on him, I think, because of the responsibilities. I've always been very mature for my age, but he's still adjusting. In that sense I would have told you to wait for him to mature a bit...but then I got to the part about your age.
Honestly honey, I think you're way too young to be in such a serious relationship already. And in my experience of watching couples that are on and off again like you are describing...it wont work out. In your case, I don't think either of you sound mature enough to be serious (please don't take offense from this). He's playing games with you and you seem to be playing along...
Go get experience dating others and learn more about life before you tie yourself into a miserable relationship that only brings you pain.
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Posted: Sat May 09, 2009 12:17 pm
Don't mind me being realistic:
First off I think you should tell your bf to stop the pills (why would he even think that). This will not got any of you anywhere. I think you should take some time off and think hard about what you want to do with your life and how you want to include him. I think that having a sexual relationship isn't bad, but only good if there is protection-not stupidity. Also try to reason with him and so what makes him so mad, maybe with this knowledge you might know how to prevent that. Also try to talk to him about how you feel, I think every real guy should have to care about what their spouse/partner has to say. If this doesn't work you could try talking to a professional(I'm not calling you crazy, but you might need a counselor to help you out with this mess). Good luck and best of wishes smile
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