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 Posted: Mon Feb 02, 2009 4:16 pm
I used to go to a high school of 300 people in a small town.
Today, I started school in a high school of 1000 people in a city.
It's . . . different. I come from a small, cow-town. Pretty much all white people, and a few natives.
At this school, it is split between white people, black people, and Asian people. All speaking in there own languages, hanging out with their own kind. Where do I go? D:
Didn't make any friends, but I'm hoping there will be someone I can at least spend lunch with once in awhile. For now, I'll just be reading in a class room.
What should I do?
I know stereotyping is bad. But every time I saw a tall, simple (dumb.), guy, he turned out to be a football player. Oh, and he would also talk about getting drunk/high 50% of the time.
A girl I have at least one class with (who also shares my name . . .) has been trying to get pregnant, and has been since junior high. She sits behind me (with the jocks) in biology, and she was talking about it, and how much she throws up because of it. Apparently she threw up in her locker today. I keep hearing her name everywhere. My name. 'Cassie'. I will DEFINITELY be going by Cassandra full time, from now on.
I probably sound like a stupid hick or something, but things like that just didn't happen back in my cow-town. The things you here when zoning out during class, and wish you didn't . . .
It's a lot different. Anyone else gone through a change like this?
Just a completely different scene then you are used to? I switched from a tiny town to a large town back in grade 4, but we were young, and accepting of new friends, it was different.
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Posted: Mon Feb 02, 2009 5:11 pm
When I became homeless, I switched from a big city to a little cow-town, as you so charmingly put it. It was creepy. In Richmond, you could go for years and years happily without making a friend and still find some things to do with your life. In Half Moon Bay, it was so different.
Back in Richmond, I never seemed far from some open mic. I could go to one of those, buy some soda with some spare change I dug out of the sofas and enjoy the local talent. I could sit in on or participate in deeply intellectual conversations, learn new things and still go without people gossiping or otherwise confiding in me.
In Half Moon Bay, it was very different. I couldn't even go into a bookstore without becoming someone's friend whether I particularly liked that person or not. The worst part of the experience was that I became assimilated and started mindlessly schmoozing with people who clearly didn't like me. I even ended up having deep, personal conversations with people who disliked me as much as I disliked them.
Another thing I noticed was that the gossip was everywhere. If you went to the park in the middle of town, you'd hear gossip in Spanish. Go to the bookstore and you'll hear it in English. Go to church on Sunday and the gossip circle just varies from table to table in the social hall. Worse still, if you gave my physical description to just about anyone who lives or works in Half Moon Bay, that person will know me right away, possibly by name. Somehow, I prefer living in a big city where nobody knows my name.
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Posted: Mon Feb 02, 2009 8:40 pm
Honestly, never had to face this... but i was a loner in school, and the high school I did go to had 4,000 kids in it...
Best I can say, is keep your eyes out for a good kid you can hang around. I dont really know how you are, like if you prefer to be alone, or with other people.
Just keep your head up, try to find someone nice. Got a science partner? Sometimes they turn out to be friends... Maybe a person next to you in class? I mean, just try to be friendly worst that will happen is that you wont become friends, right?
Personally I loved to be alone... I was the "weird" kid who sat in the hallways or courtyard watching all the other kids by myself.
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Posted: Tue Feb 03, 2009 9:32 pm
I live in a large city, but I'm used to small schools. In elementary school, I was in a school where there were 100 kids, tops. Junior high I went to a private school that was also pretty small and "exclusive". In high school, I switched to a public highschool with around 3000 kids. I didn't really adjust well and I skipped school alot, but even though there were alot of people I didn't like, I found a few that I liked alot.
None of these systems worked for me, except my elementary school. In junior high, I found myself really resenting the elitist attitude of alot of the people there. It was hard to fit in because there were so many tight-fitting cliques that always knew your business.
In the large high school, I faced alot of physical, emotional, and sexual harassment. The large amount of people made me anxious, so I just stopped going altogether.
Anyway, that was my experience in different types of schools.
What works depends on the person. It sounds like a really big adjustment, but from my experience, in a school that large there's bound to be people that you'll like/have stuff in common with. Sometimes it just takes a while to find them. Yeah, there's always the assholes and the stereotypes, but theres the good people too. Theres pro's and con's to large and small schools, But one of the things thats really nice about a big school is that theres almost always somewhere for you to fit in.
Don't be discouraged, sometimes it takes a bit of time. =)
Anyway, that was a bit long so I'm sorry, but I hope that helps.
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Posted: Fri Feb 06, 2009 5:26 pm
I made it through the week, and I actually talked to a few people. Only about things involving school though.
I think part of my problem is that I am so quiet, even though I don't feel like it. I just need to start raising my hand or something so people acknowledge my existence. But I don't really even want to do this.
Today in social was an exception. We had this project to create our own island country, expressing national identity and stuff. One group made this *perfect* country that had a cure for cancer and aids, and was rich (some how), had a population under 100,000, didn't use materials that are not recyclable, had cars made out of wood with steam engines (because apparently, that's better for the environment), had no real government, just the mayors of four towns, with no poverty, and every person was required to go to school and secondary school. And it's economy was 'bartering' . ..
I had to ask a few smart a** questions about that, of course, which she didn't even realize were sarcastic. Oh, and when she presented, she just kept rambling on and on and on . . . she had a dumb answer for everything.
There's my rant. =p
Thank you for the stories and advice, both are helpful to read. =)
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Posted: Sun Apr 19, 2009 5:12 pm
in my first high school i wasn't like much by anyone just cause of my apperance...a lot s**t happen at high school i was known as the girl with depression and suicidal...people thought they would get my depression or worse become suicidal...since i had cuts all over me and now they're scars...its was because of them
then in the middle of my junior year i switch schools to be put in this program for people like me...it went ok got to finish my junior year...
unfortunely i only completed the 1st semster of my senior year and then i was put back into a mental hosptail....i dropped out of high school since i was getting worse and the people in the school were making everthing worse....
so now im working on me ged and probably won't go to college till next year....but im still the same person just i don't deal with the people from both of my schools i went to...
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Posted: Tue Apr 21, 2009 1:32 pm
I remember when i had my leg operations, due to extremely bad complications i missed 2 years of school.
I left when everyone was 12, innocent, never did anything... i came back, and everyone i knew had completely changed, sex, drugs, you name it someone did it. I was a complete outsider as everyone had changed and matured, but i hadn't really grown up with them. But, it took a while, i managed to get on with a few people, but i can understand what its like, being a bit of an outcast at times, with everyone doing things you find disgusting/horrific/just generally shocking, that you never found before.
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Posted: Tue Apr 21, 2009 9:49 pm
Forbidden NightShade in my first high school i wasn't like much by anyone just cause of my apperance...a lot s**t happen at high school i was known as the girl with depression and suicidal...people thought they would get my depression or worse become suicidal...since i had cuts all over me and now they're scars...its was because of them then in the middle of my junior year i switch schools to be put in this program for people like me...it went ok got to finish my junior year... unfortunely i only completed the 1st semster of my senior year and then i was put back into a mental hosptail....i dropped out of high school since i was getting worse and the people in the school were making everthing worse.... so now im working on me ged and probably won't go to college till next year....but im still the same person just i don't deal with the people from both of my schools i went to... I'm sorry to hear. School really shouldn't have to be like that for anyone. People can be real shitheads, especially at that age, as I'm sure you know . . . and sometimes it's really hard to deal with, especially when you're dealing with other crap. I hope college works out better for you, and you meet new people who are better for you.
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Posted: Tue Apr 21, 2009 9:53 pm
Sh0ckW4ve I remember when i had my leg operations, due to extremely bad complications i missed 2 years of school. I left when everyone was 12, innocent, never did anything... i came back, and everyone i knew had completely changed, sex, drugs, you name it someone did it. I was a complete outsider as everyone had changed and matured, but i hadn't really grown up with them. But, it took a while, i managed to get on with a few people, but i can understand what its like, being a bit of an outcast at times, with everyone doing things you find disgusting/horrific/just generally shocking, that you never found before. I know that feeling . . .like when I found out one of my old friends from elementary lost her virginity. I was like . . . wow. Seemed like we were playing with polly pockets only a little while ago . . .
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Posted: Wed Apr 22, 2009 7:29 am
Porcelain Lusus Naturae Sh0ckW4ve I remember when i had my leg operations, due to extremely bad complications i missed 2 years of school. I left when everyone was 12, innocent, never did anything... i came back, and everyone i knew had completely changed, sex, drugs, you name it someone did it. I was a complete outsider as everyone had changed and matured, but i hadn't really grown up with them. But, it took a while, i managed to get on with a few people, but i can understand what its like, being a bit of an outcast at times, with everyone doing things you find disgusting/horrific/just generally shocking, that you never found before. I know that feeling . . .like when I found out one of my old friends from elementary lost her virginity. I was like . . . wow. Seemed like we were playing with polly pockets only a little while ago . . . Yeah, it must have been really difficult... i managed to keep in contact with some friends but, the people i never really knew had changed so much. Kids who seemed so kind, turning into spiteful pricks in a few short years really opens your eyes. But i hope your managing ok in your new school smile
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Posted: Thu Apr 23, 2009 6:12 pm
Sh0ckW4ve Porcelain Lusus Naturae Sh0ckW4ve I remember when i had my leg operations, due to extremely bad complications i missed 2 years of school. I left when everyone was 12, innocent, never did anything... i came back, and everyone i knew had completely changed, sex, drugs, you name it someone did it. I was a complete outsider as everyone had changed and matured, but i hadn't really grown up with them. But, it took a while, i managed to get on with a few people, but i can understand what its like, being a bit of an outcast at times, with everyone doing things you find disgusting/horrific/just generally shocking, that you never found before. I know that feeling . . .like when I found out one of my old friends from elementary lost her virginity. I was like . . . wow. Seemed like we were playing with polly pockets only a little while ago . . . Yeah, it must have been really difficult... i managed to keep in contact with some friends but, the people i never really knew had changed so much. Kids who seemed so kind, turning into spiteful pricks in a few short years really opens your eyes. But i hope your managing ok in your new school smile Yeah, puberty can do awful things with some people. :b I'm doing good, thanks. (:
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