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I have OCD and my parents seem to think that I don't. For some reason, even after my old therapist said I do, my mom denies it. My whole family makes fun of me for it. I have this one problem where I have to close every sinlge cabinet a certain way, and I have to make sure if stays close. My brother thinks it's funny to purposely open the cabinet after I've closed it, and he does it over and over. I have this weird way of tapping my silverware on the table, and my brother always mimics me in that. And in the car, my mom always does the things I do to make fun of me, and I'm getting sick of it. They don't understand that this is serious, and that everytime they do certain things, my OCD gets worse.

My mom also makes fun of the fact that I cut myself. (She thinks I've stopped, but I haven't.) Whenever I mention something, maybe about sweing or cutting paper, whatever, she likes to make seem like I'm going to cut myself. And she also grabs her lighters and says, 'oh are you going to burn yourself now?' It's ridiculous, and I'm starting to go crazy.

One more thing. I have a huge fear of spiders. My family threatens to put spiders on my while I'm sleeping, and my mom says that she'll just put a huge spider in my room when I'm out of the house. I can't even swat at a spider. I'll end up screaming like a little girl and running away. They scare the living heck out of me. And when I ask if they can get one out of my room, they always say something like 'Oh, is Emma too scared? Is the little spider going to get you?' And when they get the spider in the tissue or whatever, they pretend to put it on me, or wave the tissue in my face. It's so stupid.

I don't know what to do anymore! I can't handle this much longer! Anyone have any advice?

Okay, this is horrible. You have to stand up to them. Tell them that their actions towards you are grievous and unacceptable, and that no parent should be so childish towards a daughter with a documented disability. If that ill treatment persists, contact legal services for children and see if there's anything in the law that might put them in their place.

I agree with the above comments and I would like to add: do not under any circumstances try to get back at them in the same childish ways they're bullying you. It will only up the ante and make them think you want to compete with them in their "fun".

They must understand that having fun at your expense is not going to make you behave "normally". There is a reason you continue to do what you do in spite of their harassment, and if they will not see that, then they are morons. I'm sorry to be insulting. The fact is, you do not enjoy the way they play with your OCD and irritate you. If you COULD stop, you would have already. Surely even the stupidest people can see that?

Well I'm not saying to ignore your OCD. Obviously you cannot ignore that. I mean ignore your parents. If they have nothing nice to say, then they don't deserve to be heard. You keep being you, your OCD is a part of who you are. Don't let people pick on you for being you, least you're being honest and true to yourself. So, I think if your parents say something mean, just ignore them. Same with the rest of your family. Maybe bring it to their attention.

My advice is kinda geared from what I do when I have an issue - I ignore the people/thing that is causing my issues. Like completely ignore. Eventually if the person notices that I'm ignoring I use their asking why as a way to explain it. Example being my sisters, I ignore them a lot because they are both brats... So they say "Why are you ignoring me?" and my response is something like "I don't like being made fun of because I cannot read at as high of a level as you." and I just walk away.... It's just how I do things.

A goodwill effort is always the first step. Hopefully it will be enough. You shouldn't live this way.

I know people are telling you to ignore them, but honestly I don't think it's okay for you to have to put up with it. You need to make them realize how much it upsets you.