Welcome to Gaia! ::

I have some good friends here in the same town that I live in, and two of them are married to one another. But they're marriage is in major trouble. They do nothing but fight with one another, and are actively planning a 6 month seperation.

Being their good friend, I want to help in whatever way I possibly can. So the wife of the two of them has asked me to live with her until I go back to school to help her with her daily living needs. She's disabled, so there are a lot of things around the house that she's unable to do.

I don't have a problem with staying here and helping, but what I'm stressed out about is exactly how available I should make myself to her in her time of need. She's definitely the one in the relationship that is acting co-dependant, and absolutely refuses to divorce him (even though everyone else in the situation knows it would be what's best for her.)

What would be some good boundaries that I make between her and I while I'm here? Any suggestion would be super appreciated. :]

I agree with Dr Awkward, if you're willing to live with her to help you are obviously a good person, but I think you shouldnt really take sides... Maybe offer to go to her house and do things for her because she is disabled, but don't live at her house... That way the other one wont think you're favoring her by living with her, and you can go hang out with him as well... That way you're being as equal as possible.

Got any specific worries or concerns? Or just looking for a listening ear? Either way, we shall be here for you. (: