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I am going to beat him later. muahaha. Buuutt he'll probably like it. 3nodding

As most of you probably already know, Peter and I are polyamorous, and I am currently emotionally and long distancely involved with a wonderful boy we'll call J. I'm going to meet him face to face after the holidays and we'll see where it goes from there.

Polyamory is challenging yet rewarding. I've been through my share of frustrations with it, such as the fact that I'm head over heels in love with my Best Friend, who's mono (not that I find anything wrong with that, it just means I can't ethically make the decision to be with him without knowing I'd be limiting him) and we were together for a few months. I knew it wouldn't be forever, but it still hurt when we broke up. Actually--He was the first boy to ever break my heart. That sucked.

But it can also be very rewarding--Like when Pete was sick a few weeks ago, and J IMed me every day, and in the first few sentences were asking how Pete was doing, and saying he wished he could give him some of the bitchin soup his primary makes. It was adorable. When my Bestie and I were still together, one night we all fell asleep together in the big queen size bed, and it was beautiful

mhmm. Open mindedness and toleration of others differences is something that really needs to be spread out in the world, sadly it belongs to just a select few instead. *pout*

Being poly to me is just right. It's an orientation to me, not really a "choice" as it sometimes is to others. I may be meeting the boy I've been talking to online sometime before/on christmas. I'm excited!

I don't see it as a choice either. To me, ignoring other attractive people even when at the moment I'm not socializing with my partner is just weird. It's like only having one best friend and not being able to hang out with anyone else. If my partner is over at a friend's house while I'm at work, it doesn't matter to me if they're watching TV or having sex. There's no reason for me to be jealous about either one.

I am very new to the group but I am also fairly new to the realm of poly, the guy I have been dating as of lately and I have both openly discussed the idea of having a poly relationship, I think my biggest hang up over it would not be the idea of being in love with other ppl but just sharing him sexually I tend to be needy about things, like that, but i have heard others say you can have relationships with others that don't have to necessarily be all sexual with everyone which I have to admit I probably would be more interested in it would just make me feel a lil more comfortable.

I am not even sure just why I feel that way i just do for some reason. But I hope I can make friends from this group that are already in the life style, i think that would be helpful in my learning more.