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 Posted: Thu Dec 04, 2008 12:17 pm
How does everyone feel about swinging? My girl and I are Monogamous and always plan on being, but swinging has always been fascinating to me. Does anyone have any experiences with it? Anyone have any information or opinions on it?
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Posted: Thu Dec 04, 2008 7:11 pm
Well. No offense to Shadow of course. But I always thought of these things as a bond between a person and a second person. I never really cared for the idea of bringing more people into it because I didn't like the idea of... I suppose having to "share" the bond. You know what I mean? So I dunno. Swinging to me sounds too much like a.. Lust sort of thing. Not to say that is bad. Just not my style. I'm sort of a hopeless and old-fashioned romantic type I suppose. Lol.
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Posted: Thu Dec 04, 2008 7:44 pm
@Evil: Swinging and polyamory TOTALLY no the same thing. I must remember to beat Pete into starting a poly thread, because I"m too lazy to do it, since more than half the topics are mine already. xD
Swinging... eh.
It's okay for people who are into it, I totally respect their decision, but it's not for me. I don't see the safety in it, and there's no honesty for a lot of relationships, and I dunno. I may be ill informed, but it just seems to be about sex and getting your rocks off, which believe me--is fine by me, but I'm more affectionate based than sex based.
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Posted: Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:18 am
I meant in the sense of sharing another person. I know what the two are. It's just that I am more the one on one type. Lol. I don't even know if I could do a threesome unless I was just... really in the mood or something.
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Posted: Fri Dec 05, 2008 8:00 am
Yeah, I see where you're going. It's a really understandable thing, we were all raised to believe that love is a completely limited and expendable thing. Like, once you found love, don't let it go, or else you'll never find one. We "hog" love as a society.
I'm not saying that's every monogamous person's view, just a lot of them, specially the uber vanilla ones. Like, the sexuality equivalent to bible thumping holy water throwing HAIL JESUS type of Catholics. Y'know?
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Posted: Fri Dec 05, 2008 9:49 am
I did the whole swinging thing for a while, it was okay while it lasted, but it was more of a expiriment with my ex than anything. We did well with it, but not together. As much as it was fun when I did it, I don't know if I could do it again. I do know people who have been really really successful with it though, and are still doing well, and plan to make it a practice that they will continue through their whole life. *shrug* I think it just takes a certain kind of person to be able to be a successful swinger.
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Posted: Mon Dec 08, 2008 10:45 pm
I'm very successful poly, but I could never be a swinger. I love affection and simply don't do one nighters or relationships based on sex and sexual activities. I dunno.
However-Tarren is in a very happy swinging relationship, and if he would GET ON GAIA >.< we could ask him. haha
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Posted: Tue Dec 09, 2008 5:29 am
I thought swinging went out the door after the 70s huh learn something new everyday anyway I would never swing...if you do then thats up to you but I prefer to be with one partner but I don't judge people who swing just hope that they take precautions (same advice I give to people who have sex with more than one person)
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