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 Posted: Sat Sep 13, 2008 5:58 pm
After seeing just one too many 'short and sweet' (aka white trash) costume patterns, I no longer have any desire to wear a skirt much above ankle-length.
And yet, the majority of lolita (EGA excepted) clothing is at least mid-calf length. This has bothered me for some time. As I was reading Godchild one day, I examined the lovely and childish details of Merryweather's ankle-length dress, and mused. Could I actually do this? Could I actually wear a full length skirt and still call myself lolita?
At first I thought, "Why not?", but now I'm not so sure. I don't think I'm old enough to wear EGA yet (although I don't like putting age limits on things or people), but of all the meet-up photos I've ever seen, there has never been a sweet lolita in a full-length skirt.
Wouldn't it be pleasant to pick up one's skirts just a little to mount a staircase and show off a dainty inch of rosetted pink and brown sock?
It hurt me every time someone gave me the "you look like a stripper" look when I was wearing knee-length skirts, because I have always cherished modesty. The one things separating lolita from period wear is the skirt length (and maybe the lovely socks we have now, those wonderful little things), in my opinion. Perhaps people would not associate me with that dreadful novel then. I can hardly abide showing so much leg now, even if it is covered with a sock. Perhaps I need to take it one step further and lengthen my skirts and dresses from now on.
Is this wrong for me to feel this way?
I no longer wear lolita in any form on a regular basis because I'm tired of the looks, tired of the whispers, tired of the stares, the snickers. It all hurts, because I love it so much, but I'm totally and utterly alone. I have never had an outing with another lolita, and maybe that is why. I'm pretty short of moral support right now.
Perhaps I need an elitist to do a little straight-talking with me. May I hear everyone's thoughts on the subject raised?
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Posted: Mon Sep 22, 2008 6:29 pm
Look dont let people push you around , do what you think looks good. I see no reason you cant have a long skirt. And believe me having your skirt longer wont make you a period-ist (dresses in period clothes).
I say go for it.
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Posted: Sat Oct 18, 2008 10:46 am
I think that the longer dresses are actually cuter. ^^ I'm considering make a longer lengthened dress myself after I finish the one I'm working on now.
I've never been out with another lolita myself, and it is a bit nerve racking to dress up and go out alone. When you go out with a group you have the support of others and it makes it easier to brush off rude comments. I try not to let the comments of others dictate what I do and wear, but it's pretty hard, especially when they're gawking at you.
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Posted: Fri Nov 14, 2008 2:27 am
(This will be by far the longest post I've written on these boards..)
The style does attract a lot of unwanted attention. You will always have those looks and whispers, it's just a matter of people getting used to the fact that (hint) it's your choice to have whatever personal style you want to have. If you love Lolita, and it makes you feel good when you put it on, then that's should be the feeling you keep with you.
As for a long skirted alma lolita, why not? You should go for it. Just remember: changing the styling will take a lot of patience and scrupulous editing. When lengthening your skirts pay careful attention to your use of color and trimming so you don't over do it. A long skirt is a lot to sweet-lolita up. Also watch the proportion of the dress.
My one concern would be where the EGL and EGA cross. Something so very unique to sweet lolita is this image of a baby doll, in pinks and blues and whites. The style suggests cuteness and daintiness, which is half portrayed in the calf length skirt, what a little girl would wear to church, for instance. There is something a little more harsh in the image of a full skirt that sweeps to the floor. It's an element that is almost solely reserved for EGA, which reflects more of the aristocratic adult woman.
You mentioned that what was separating lolita and period wear was the length of the skirt but really one of the elements of lolita is the little girl look, and in the period we're speaking on, young girls did wear calf and knee length dresses with stockings. What you're talking about is to the degree of age. At our age in those times, we would be wearing floor length gowns, but Lolita is about those innocent times when we were still little girls that we must uphold and maintain.
I don't know HOW you can look like a stripper in a knee length dress unless you live with the amish. Do you really think that is what people are thinking? Have they told you that in the past? Perhaps they are reacting to something outside of their norm and what they see as garish and costume-y. Perhaps, because of the preconceived notion of what "lolita" means, if you introduce it to people as "Lolita fashion" they mark it as such. The solution might not come from lengthening your skirts, but rather in educating people about what you're really doing.
"What are you wearing?"
"Its a fashion trend out of Japan. It's called __ Loli."
Either way you choose, you have to have the conviction to stand up for what Lolita is to you. You're not a sex-craved man-seducing pre-teen, so why allow people to think so? If you think they're judging you because of the pretense of the word "Lolita" in the English language, then school them on what this Lolita is and the lifestyle that comes along with it!
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