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 Posted: Thu Jul 10, 2008 2:03 am
So, what causes most of the people on Gaia to become depressed, suicidal, lost, etc.? Is it something personal-like family issues, or self-esteem issues? Or is it something related to world issues? Is it what the world says we should look like, be like, and do like? Are these reasons that people in general, as well as on Gaia, become lost, depressed, or suicidal? Can someone clear this up for me? I would like to know, so I can offer advice, help, or just a shoulder of empathy to cry on/talk to. Now, on to another thought.... What could we do to make people see the brighter side of life and encourage happiness and fun? We should do something creative!!! Something that will encourage optimism and energy- something to show that not everything's as bad as it seems. Hmmmmmmm........
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Posted: Thu Jul 10, 2008 3:32 pm
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It's not all people on gaia. It's also people in the real world.
TWLOHA is a non-profit movement to finding help/hope for those struggling with depression, addiction, self-injury and suicide. TWLOHA exists to encourage, inform, inspire, and also to invest directly into treatment and recovery.
What makes people depressed is if they're upset about something, believe that have a sucky life, or they had something in their life happen that caused that effect (example: death of family members, friends, etc.).
We can't always brighten others paths and what not. But the best thing to do is to just encourage that person/those people to think more positively and just believe in them that they can turn things around in their life.
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Posted: Thu Jul 10, 2008 8:17 pm
You might not r e a l i z e it... People are depressed all for different reasons. Family, Friends, Drama, Life, Death, etc. People everywhere are suffering from depression, that's why we all really support TWLOHA, right? To help shine lights on people. To help people feel like they're not alone. But it's unfortunate.. some people, we can't help because they don't want to be helped, they can't be helped. They've been too traumatized. But we try, everyone wants to feel happiness, so we always try to accomplish that. But you are l o v e d.
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Posted: Fri Jul 11, 2008 8:08 pm
Depression comes from LIFE itself. In my opinion, you can't avoid it. When you're depressed, you're depressed and you can't really do anything about it. But then again, your choices determines how much you actually suffer through that depression. Some will try to run from it, others will drown in it. There are plenty of people out there who are willing to lend a hand--take it. Face your problems and let time heal what it can. Our job here is apparently to be that lending hand. Lots of love given to everyone!
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Meiko-san Akizuki Vice Captain
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Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 2:55 am
oh ok.
good point. (all three of you)
so encouraging and loving is all we can do?
well, that's cool.
i can work with that.
so how do you guys get in touch with people around gaia and in reality?
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Posted: Mon Jul 14, 2008 9:16 pm
I find it interesting that no one's mentioned brain chemistry yet, because sometimes it is, at least in part, a matter of hormones and neurotransmitters functioning incorrectly. And of course, there's the Freudian approach: childhood trauma or conflicts... (Which holds some water, even if not as much as Freud would have suggested.)
Encouraging, loving, and praying, if you believe as I do that prayer matters, are all great ways to help. And know how to listen! A lot of the time, people just need to know that someone cares to know the pain they are in.
The one person I've really been trying to help through depression and self-injury rather fell into my lap... A mutual friend (if either of us can call him a friend; it's a long story) told me about his cutting and I decided to try and pray for him and befriend him.... And here we are 2 years later, and he's doing a lot better but still cutting on occassion.... (As I said, it's a long story.)
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Posted: Tue Jul 15, 2008 12:37 pm
interesting.
aww that's sad, but at least your working throught it.
i'm going to save people... that's my new summer's resolution... and the one i'll stick to for the rest of well.... my life!! XD
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Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 10:48 pm
(; awesome. Me too. We're all in this goal.
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Meiko-san Akizuki Vice Captain
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Posted: Fri Aug 01, 2008 5:40 am
For me, it was a mixture of family issues & self esteem issues. And it only made it worse when I grew farther from God, because sadly I've been through quite a few of those phases.
The best thing that has helped me hang on is helping other people. I've realized I have a few friends that struggle with self injury as well and knowing that I have to be strong for them helps me so much. And I feel accomplished and proud of myself when I know I've helped someone.
And I do agree, praying is probably the most loving and encouraging thing we can do. =]
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Posted: Sat Nov 22, 2008 5:34 pm
I think that people are affected by every aspect of their life... some people have pressure and stress and sadness built up on their shoulders, and then they seek some release. I've found that at this point its sort of culture, or in other words your surrounding and experiences, that teach you how to release that stress. Unfortunately some people have seen self-abuse/addiction/all the things TWLOHA is about helping, and so they think that is the way to deal. At least thats how it appeared in my life.
And so i think the best thing we can do is encourage people who ARE cutting to seek help and trust their friends, family and councilers to help them, and then to introduce alternative coping mechanisms. I still struggle with dealing with my problems in appropriate ways, right now the best i can come up with is calling friends to talk me out of whatever mood im in or working on some idle project like sketching while i adjust my thinking. But i definately believe that a lot (but not all) people who self-abuse do it as a coping mechanism, and just because they grew up being shown by their peers and media that thats what people their age do. Alternative coping mechanisms are definately needed- good releases for that energy.
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Posted: Sat Jan 24, 2009 5:37 am
i think its both brain chemistry and the people around you.
for me; it was both. my parents are bipolar. both of them.
i have autistic brother that ever since he was little [hes aspergers]
gets in my space, messes up and breaks my things, and is so 'weird' people would ignore me because they diddnt want to be in anyway associated with him. [i am being a little dramatic though its ot like i dont have any freinds now or watever, this was middle school]
middle school like, im not racist! please dont get me wrondg, i was simply a minority in this case.
you see; most of the school was either blak or hispanic. actually 50 l;ack 30% hispanic 8% white and the rest asian.
it hurt, beause people were so caught in their crowds, i had no freinds.
i walked alone in every hallway until parts of 7th and most of 8th grade.
i cutted alot throughout that time.
and i wouldnt of been as bad if the people of noticed wouldve more like 'omg are u ok?!?' but insted they were more like 'wtf is wrong with you dont dare touch me with your vampric satnistic arms i dont wanna get affected by your mental disease you f*****t face whitey' <--ok no quite like that but thats the message i got from all the different people leaving that place, i diddnt realize it was a race thing or anything like hat. i thought i was just weird and that kids were that stupd and disruptive etc everywhere, and by stupid i mean gangs, failing grades because they just diddnt wanna do the work, fights once a week over led pencils etc.
on top of ppl ignoring me because of my brother.
and personally, i wasnt exactly 'pretty' and i dressed very diffrently than most of the othr students, even in a uniform school, by trying to cver up my arms with with armwarmes and bracelets with checkers/ rainbows/ jack skellington. they diddnt even know who jack was.
now im in high school and its almost the other way around, equal really.
people are really nice to me now. and i even get a little upset, by my lunch perioud, half the people in my next class are fully aware ive been hurt somehow and glomp we with hugs xD
so im slowly healing <3
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Posted: Tue Jun 30, 2009 1:48 am
What makes people depressed? It depends on the person.
For me, I think it was alot of things. When I was six and a half my mom died. When I was in elementary school, my friends changed every year. When middle school started, I had no friends. Once I started making friends, it seemed like I was everyone's second or third choice. Or even worse. My friends changed every year, got closer to some, further from others. In eigth grade, I think I finally realized how to balance that issue.
Now I'm in high school. My two best friends got together, and I'm the third wheel. They say they still love me, but I'm not so sure. I'm starting to realize what's wrong with me and I deal with it the wrong way. I don't have a mother figure, I don't get along with my dad, I rarely see my older brothers, I embarrass easily which sucks because I do alot of stupid things. My grades have gone down, it seems like my dad just keeps wanting me to get better at everything I do, no matter how hard I try. My older brothers are athletic, they get the girls, they are making it in life, while I can't do anything right.
I'm fourteen, which means I can't make decisions on my own according to my dad.
I'm too fat. Not smart enough. Not athletic enough. I'm a hipocrite, I tend to say the wrong things at the worse possible times, I screw up everything. I feel like I make my life f*cked up because I want to prove to myself that it's as bad as I make it out to be. When really I know that My family loves me. That I am somebody's best friend.
That makes me depressed.
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