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Hi ......
I have a problem to air on behalf of a friend who wants to remain annon!
She's married to a man that everyone thinks is great and assumed they're both happy. The problem is that she's not!!! I think she said....
she's a warm hearted person that loves people whereas he's cold and military. He's
not very loving and doesn't really enjoy talking though quite happy to be centre of attention within groups of friends. She told me that they've talked and he is happy but
aware he probably isn't 'right' for her as they ARE different.
So currently
wifey is happy to do her part in marriage but get's very little in return. But to his defence he has a full-time job, doesn't stray with other girls and happy to do his part in maintaining home and look after kids.
To add to the problem
she thinks she's fallen for another man (a wonderful man I might add)..... he's divorced I think... currently living alone with visiting older children. He has nothing materially to offer, no home etc but she really isn't interested in that and wouldn't be a problem.
The man is a friend of Husband which just adds to the problem. She believes he (the man she secretly loves)
feels the same or would like to but in no way would want to course problems. She totally understands this and feels the same.
She just wants him to know that she thinks he's amazing, hansome, sooo lovely .... ahem..... with no strings or demands as she loves him in an unselfish way.
But if she does tell then there's no going back.... she'll be possibly starting something she can't stop..... there could be heart ache ahead and he might reject her.
What does she do? There's lots of little problems amongst the overall thing of longing for a new man so it would be interesting to see who can rationalise things for her and help to see straight......
O_O whoa...big problems. (I'm not the best go-to Gaian, but...here goes...)
You say Wifey's Husband is aware that he isn't Mr. Right, right? Maybe he would understand if Wifey wants to probably...well, sorta part the marriage and go for Guy #2.
IF Guy #2 feels the same, they could try to discuss with Husband for an answer/solution/something...maybe...>_>
IF Guy #2 doesn't feel the same...um...still thinking that over.
Once again, I'm not the best person for advice, but I'm trying for now. Sorry if my advice doesn't help (which is likely).
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