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Okay, so my best friend friend (Sarah) found me on Myspace a couple months ago and we started talking back and forth. Well, one of her friends, Josh, saw my picture, thought I was cute or whatnot, and started messaging me. Well, even though he always seemed a little off his rocker, I wrote back. But I didn't like him. I purposely acted a little stupid and airheady to make him not like me. I don't have the heart to tell him/people that I'm not interested, so it's just easier for me to "fake" stupid and make people think, "Oh god, what an airhead." y'know??

Well, Josh didn't get the picture. He asked me if I wanted to be his girlfriend and I said, "I guess." QUOTE. And when he goes, "Well, are we?" I said, "I guess so." I never said yes or no! But Josh STILL didn't get my airheadedness. Which my best friend in the whole entire world (Aubrey) AND Rami's fiancé both told me is dangerous. Aubrey told me he's possibly seeing my airheadedness as an easy target to force sex on me and rape and so on and James is obviously a guy and knows how guys think. So ever since then, I've been a little leery.

He is constantly telling me that he loves me, that I'm beautiful, and so on, but I don't know this guy at all! I don't know his last name - i know that his name is Josh and that he doesn't have kids. I don't know if he believes in God (which he MUST if I'm going to go anywhere with ANY guy), I don't know his views on me being a girl who is 20 and already has two kids, and so on. I have never told him that I loved him back, and anytime he tells me beautiful, I'm just say, "Aw thanks." and if he tells me he loves me, I say, "You're silly." and so on.

Well, Lola (a friend of Sarah's and apparently Josh's) is getting married June 14th, and I went and bought a dress for her wedding and her wedding gift, and I asked if it would be okay bring a guest along. My guest is Rodney, a boy who is two years younger than I am. We are STRICTLY friends. I'm actually interested in making our relationship more than friends, but he is not, and I'm okay with that; it actually makes more sense. We've known each other since we were young, and he started out as my brothers friend, not my friend. But now we've grown into like casual dating friends. FRIENDS.

Well, Josh was looking at Lola's comments and he seen me talking about Rodney, making sure it was okay that he comes to the wedding, and saying that he was really nice and sweet and that I think she would like him. I guess it pissed Josh off (who thinks we're in a relationship) and he sent me a message going, "hey who is rodney."

OKAAAAAAY. You were spying on me? See, this is why I don't want to date you!! You're WEIRD. And obviously you're spying at me...which could be taken as...stalking?? >_<

I don't know whether to be flattered because he seems jealous that I'm bringing another boy to the wedding, or to be overly paranoid and concerned...

Well, I've been overly concerned over him, so I'm overly concerned, but still.

I never thought that a guy would do this over lil' ol' me!

I think I just need to block him and forget about him.

I'm going to do it after the wedding, I don't want to piss anyone off before hand, especially seeing as I bought her a wedding gift and a dress to wear. sweatdrop

Yeah. I haven't even met Josh yet, which makes this all a little stranger... it's a little weird.

I bought Josh will be at the wedding, unless Sarah brings him, which I think might be a little weird.

Lets put it this way, I hope he's not at the wedding! This might sound selfish, but I want to be able to have fun at the wedding (if I make it back in time) and if he is there, James will definitely be on the lookout since he doesn't like Josh at all.

I get the impression that Josh thinks he's going to score 100% with you, and that's not right.

Break it off with Josh. Write him a clear message that you are not interested and do not want to be involved with him romantically. Then just stay clear from him for awhile. I think that's the best thing to do. Just be honest! He should get the point and if not, block him online and never have contact with him again.
Hope it works out!

i think Citrimax has the right idea. breaking it off now before anything else happens is the best bet.,

He's gone on Saturday night.

I'm not sure, but saying "I guess so" isn't a yes in my book. Yes means yes, but not I guess so. I never said we were in a relationship, because in order to be in a relationship, he has to go by some rules that I have set. He didn't follow them, and therefore we're not in a relationship. Secondly, he IS spying on me, because he is not friends with Lola, and therefore he can't see her comments unless he goes on Sarah's account to read them. He seen Lola and I commenting back and forth on my profile, got into Sarah's account (who has Lola as her friend) to see what I said to her.

A member of this guild (I won't say her name out of respect for her privacy) was sexually harassed and nearly raped by someone she was in a relationship with, and hearing her story and the aftermath that followed (he stalked her, and nearly killed her current partner on numerous occasions) makes me exceedingly unsecure about people like Josh, especially considering that I've never met him. That plus the fact that he's constantly tells me he loves me, thinks I'm beautiful, is happy that I'm working so we can get an apartment together, is asking for my address and phone number, and so forth, when he doesn't know me at all. He knows my name is Julie and that's it. Considering the fact that he is 23, can't drive, doesn't work, doesn't attend school, and constantly wants to meet me in Newport (which is a dirty, scary place, I NEVER go there) makes him weird. Plus, he straight told me to save my money so, "maybe we can get an apartment together." Perhaps I should have mentioned that I didn't write all the reasons why I think he is dangerous, and why I am scared of him. There has been a lot of going back and forth that pretty much concludes the fact that the idiot of way off his rocker. There is no way you can have a relationship with someone unless you've met them, that's the way I see it. In my neighborhood, the "I guess so." is just like "maybe not." Kentucky lingo... neutral


Anyway, the wedding happened, I sent Josh an email explaining that I know that he was snooping on me, because I have numerous fact that give me plenty of evidence (I only gave 1/100 pieces of evidence in this whole thread, there is loads more that I can't be assed to type out) and I told him, "I know you were snooping on me or one of my best friends is starting unnecessary drama considering I am with Sarah and Lola daily, I am going to assume it's you, especially considering you showed up on the tracker, not Sarah or Lola." MySpace has this nifty little "Comment back" after you recieve a comment, so there is no need for people go to on actual profile pages anymore unless they want to. Sarah wasn't on the profile, Josh was.

Anyway, it's over.

And I've fallen in love with someone else. ^_^