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I see that your friend has a case of assumptions, what-ifs, early unsolicited reactions,and most of all, unrequited love.

so meaning hindi nag confess yung friend mo? ponder on this quote sa movie na, "My Bestfriend's Wedding": If your really love someone, tell him/her instantly, or else you will lose the moment. (tama bah toh? tagal na yun eh, nakalimutan ko na.lol basta something like that) the gist here is that you're friend tried to hold back her feelings. That won't lead to anything. part of loving is that one has to start to ignition. more like "Walk the Talk" part. Tignan mo, she lost the moment.

and this one, i believe the guy has already made his resolution on the relationship between the two of them yet your friend still pursued on the guy in a silent manner.

Dear you cannot force someone to love you back. Forgive me for my insolence but this attitude is somewhat immature and irrational. Let me give you a scenario, say for example, you were in your friend's shoes. Tapos pinilit mo yung crush mo. tell me then? will he be happy with you knowing that he already has someone in mind and in heart? will you trap him in a cage then tapos ikaw lang yung happy? do you want your crush to suffer while your basking happily in your own selfish actions? think about it.

What's worse here is that your friend reacted in such a manner without even considering na walang kaalam-alam yung guy sa feelings ng friend mo. wouldn't that be unfair sa part ng guy? Implied rejection hurts a lot more than a verbalized one. It would have been better if she spoke up earlier.

exactly why this scenario is unfair. hindi alam ng guy yung situation ng girl. Isn't it part of loving that one has to ignite the flame? That one should be free to choose his/her special someone? that unrequited love becomes a conditional love if one wouldn't be selfish on his/her reactions?


Kelly right? Im sorry if my approach may have been quite straightforward. I am merely presenting the reality here. Wanna know something pa? People tend to watch too much love/romantic movies that they tend to cling on false hopes and fantasize about it. Not every fairytale can globally cater to a population of more than 6 billion people. what lies outside the walls of our heart is a cold reality and little chances of a happily-ever-after event.

Only your friend can help herself from this. Your duty is mainly to support her from all of this. Present to her the reality. Ask her as to how long will she end up acting as a pathetic looser. Ask her as to how long will she stay selfish and childish. ask her kung kailan nya paninidigan yung implied conviction nya na HINDI NGA SYA BATA. Plus avoid telling her that its ok because ITS NOT OK. The damage has been done, the pain is there. Filling her hole with chattering false hopes and promises will only break her spirit in the near future.

Help her accept that reality and help her that she can break through from this pain. Part of growing up is taking the pain and turning it into your own strength.