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 Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2005 10:53 pm
...sorry if this is too close to a repeat thread, I just need some help, and thought it would be better to get fresh opinions. Delete it if you must, I'll understand.
Here's my problem:
At the mo, my mother is TOTALLY manic. She won't listen to anyone, keeps saying she's fine, forgeting commitments and calling people repeatedly, and at all hours...when I'm manic, I'm not SO out of control as she is.
However....it's gotten way out of hand. My grandfather literally ruined my grandmother's life because of his bipolar, and so seeing my mother go through it is really wearing her down (she's in her 80's). Obviously, having a semi-absent (though loving) father does not really help the situation, nor does having my sister living with her friend instead of home. Basically, I'm the one that's supposed to "do something about it". Her doctor's on vacation. As I get depressed WAY more often than I get manic, I'm not as much of a help.
My aunt, who was 15-16 at the peak of my grandfather's insanity, is more familiar with the situation, but, to be blunt, she's really bitchy. Now, don't get me wrong, I love her and she's really smart, but chewing me out about not doing enough to help, and blaming my father's laziness on me does NOT help very much.
I have an appointment with my own psychiatrist tomorrow, and so I'll inevitably end up discussing it with her, but I don't know how much that'll do. School starts on thursday, and my aunt expects me to stay home and watch my mother like a hawk.
Basically, I don't know what to do. I'm doing the best I can, it seems, but that's not near good enough. I'm on a very short fuse, + PMS, and school, and my own depression, which seems to be deepening by the day (this, I believe to be caused by above stressors). I'm finding it hard to function properly, cannot focus, and have more or less dropped to 1.5 meals a day, not including munchies. This is because I am simply not hungry. However, that is not the problem right now.
Please, any and all help would be really appreciated right now, and my appologies for the long post.
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2005 11:09 pm
i dont really know you or your mother very well so i may be a bit vague....
okay....if possible try to hold out til you see your psych tomorrow.....i dont know if your psych is like this, but i know my psych says i can call anytime if its an emergency, so if it gets to that point and if he or she is okay with that do that....
like i said i dont know your mom, but if shes the kind of manic that involves getting violent, then maybe calling the bitchy aunt is the best bet. or if you can reach your father via cell phone or whatever (if possible).
if i were you id probably try to keep my mind off of it (i know, easier said than done) but try to get some sleep, and take care of it in the morning with the psych....
i dont know if i helped any....im probably just playing captain obvious, but maybe not .:shrug:. never know i suppose
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Apocalyptic Exhibitionist
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Hypomanic Poet Vice Captain
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2005 11:15 pm
Why should everyone put you in that position? Try to help as much as you can, but for you rfamily to expect you to give up your social life/school/etc is unfair. Call a family member and tell them you simply can't handle it on your own.
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2005 11:16 pm
minky_meister i dont really know you or your mother very well so i may be a bit vague.... okay....if possible try to hold out til you see your psych tomorrow.....i dont know if your psych is like this, but i know my psych says i can call anytime if its an emergency, so if it gets to that point and if he or she is okay with that do that.... like i said i dont know your mom, but if shes the kind of manic that involves getting violent, then maybe calling the bitchy aunt is the best bet. or if you can reach your father via cell phone or whatever (if possible). if i were you id probably try to keep my mind off of it (i know, easier said than done) but try to get some sleep, and take care of it in the morning with the psych.... i dont know if i helped any....im probably just playing captain obvious, but maybe not .:shrug:. never know i suppose Yeah, thanks, I might just do that. My mother thankfully isn't violent, just CRAZY. She wanted to buy me a screen door for my bedroom 'cause she thought it was too hot, and to borrow 20,000 dollars to help fix the house. @_@
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2005 11:21 pm
Hypomanic Poet Why should everyone put you in that position? Try to help as much as you can, but for you rfamily to expect you to give up your social life/school/etc is unfair. Call a family member and tell them you simply can't handle it on your own. agreed thats good shes not violent well i must be off (the rents keep buggin me to sleep) i hope things work out. good luck! heart
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2005 11:38 pm
Thank you both very, very much. I'm gonna see what I can do to keep my social life up at least a little, 'cause I'm supposed to, anyway. (for my own mental health)
I'm hopefully going to get to go hang out in the park with my friend for a little detox time. My friends seem to be my greatest allies at the moment.
...and, as a random side note... THE GUILD IS ACTIVE-ISH! YESSS! *cheers*
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Hypomanic Poet Vice Captain
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Posted: Fri Aug 26, 2005 2:36 am
Angellen Thank you both very, very much. I'm gonna see what I can do to keep my social life up at least a little, 'cause I'm supposed to, anyway. (for my own mental health) I'm hopefully going to get to go hang out in the park with my friend for a little detox time. My friends seem to be my greatest allies at the moment. ...and, as a random side note... THE GUILD IS ACTIVE-ISH! YESSS! *cheers* Good friends can be your rock at hard times. Get them to help ya if they can. Good luck! heart biggrin
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Posted: Fri Aug 26, 2005 7:28 pm
Thank you both...school started up, so I'm occupied for most of the day, and, although my ADHD is driving me CRAZY, mom seems to be okay. She was still a little manic yesterday, but MUCH better than when I put this up. Hence...I shall dub this resolved!
Thank you again, SO much for the advice. Sometimes I don't know who to talk to, or what to do, and I'm glad I was able to get such advice. ^^
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