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 Posted: Mon Jan 28, 2008 7:50 pm
Sorry about how long it is. you'll understand if you read it all though. lol
So heres the problem that is troubling me. I dated this one girl that i liked a lot and we had a blast every time we met. then she moved away. so we both thought it was better to break up at that moment in time. i still like her though. Then one of my moms friends tried to get me a girlfriend because i was bummed about my ex-gf(Amanda). so i was introduced to this one girl (named Stephanie) as her being interested in me. so i scheduled a couple of meetings for us (movies, parties, ect...) and she did things i thought meant she liked me too. so we had fun and i started to like her a LOT more than Amanda. so i felt bad about feeling that way. so one day i asked her to go out with me. she declined. she said that she was INTERESTED in being my friend. so i went home and cried (seriously not joking). and so we are now friends. i have not really seen her anymore and we talk on facebook and the phone barely anymore. so i got over her. or so i think. im scared of what ill think when i see her again. but throughout i was still talking to Amanda and we were friends(and i started to like her more again). which im regretting that iv missed out on the feeling of love she gave me. so recently iv started to think im not meant for love. just to be a person who inspires it in others. and whenever i see a girl that has been nice to me and i like im too shy and bashful to say anything which makes me feel more like im not meant for love. to say gods way of keeping me alone. so i guess all this was just a way of me asking. what should i do? give up on love and be happy, get back with Amanda, keep trying with Stephanie, or try with someone else? it is awkward to say but please tell me what you think.
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Posted: Mon Jan 28, 2008 9:43 pm
You would probably be surprised to know that a lot of people have this problem. Not your situation but if love is meant for them. Even people in relationships think that. They feel they don't deserve their bf/gf for whatever reason. Anyway, I could go on but my point is that you are not alone with that feeling. It is hard when someone you love has to move away. You are not capable of seeing that person or touching them and you are forced apart... Sometimes a girl gives off signs and ,as guys, we misinterpret them. Or she really did want to be with you but for whatever reason she had to turn you down. I wouldn't really worry about what you think if you see her again. If you are over her and there are no strong feelings then you shouldn't worry about it. I am also bad with social situations. Practically everybody can find love so don't give up. I can't make a decision for you but i can help. You could try a long-distance relationship with Amanda. To see each other you could use a web cam and talk on the phone. It is even possible to go see each other on holidays if she doesn't live too far. Just to warn you though, keeping a long-distance relationship is hard. I wouldn't go for Stephanie. She has already turned you down once and will probably turn you down again. If she does like you she can ask you out herself. I would try for someone else. To me it sounds like a different person would be better.
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The Living Impaired Vice Captain
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Posted: Tue Jan 29, 2008 5:36 pm
well thanks first off i guess. and i have done a long distance relationship before and decided to my self to never do that again (sorry). i also figured that others had the same feeling. i never thought i was alone. lol. and it is hard to contact Amanda for the reason of her mom does not like me (idk why). and also she has another bf already. so yeah. also i never asked for you to make the decision for me. i asked what you thought on this situation. but personally i think im going to try to just suck it up. sorry when i wrote that last one i was kind of depressed (i get moments).lol. so yeah thanks again. and nice advice. ^_^
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Posted: Tue Jan 29, 2008 7:36 pm
Heh. Well I didn't really know what to say so I was making it up as I went along. I'm glad that I... helped? I guess a long-distance relationship only works out for some. When I said you would be surprised I meant that as a general statement to anyone who read it. When some people are feeling bad they sometimes think they are the only one. Well that sucks to hear she is already dating someone else, but it happens. And also about saying "I can't make a decision for you" what I meant was I don't know what you should do. Trying to suck it up isn't bad. You don't have to forget the past, but don't dwell on it. Move on. You're welcome.
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The Living Impaired Vice Captain
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Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 7:21 pm
lol well you did a good job at doing that. and yeah i guess you helped. and the last long distance relationship i had went horribly wrong. i dont want to say why though. lol. but i know what you mean about most people thinking that there the only one. well thanks for trying again ^_^. and personally i can never forget the past. my mind is half on it nearly all the time. whats been lost, what can never be, and so forth. lol.
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Posted: Thu May 15, 2008 3:10 pm
what happened to this guild???? no one does anything anymore.
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