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Clayton Godfreed here. Friendship. It means a lot as we're in our adolescent's period. I guess the big issue of friendship comes from when we feel that friends aren't really being friends because of peer pressure or they just seem to be jerks to you overall. Big discussion? Too broad and general? Maybe. Maybe. First off, for those who have put up with too much chit for too long, drop the friends, they're not worth your time. It's not that you're not good enough or anything 'coz you guys are for joining this guild smile They're not better off without you, you're better off without them, and it's their loss for not wanting to have a person such as yourself with them. If you think your friend(s) are goin through a rough time, which explains their "unusual" behavior, then talk the issues/problems out with them to see what's wrong. Friendships are like relationships; they need to be healthy, strong, and COMMUNICABLE. No talking means ignorance of each other. If you feel that your friend deserves oh so many chances, you should choose when to stop giving them chances. You'll know when to stop when you start to feel like you're bein used everyone you know, trust me, I've been there. Alright, this is a long intro for a topic, but it's to give you guys out there a small tip before you come to us with a major problem, not that we don't want you or anything :p I'm probably the best, open minded person to talk to about friendship since I've been through a lot. On this topic, just post an issue you might be having with a friend; just tell us what this friend is usually like, how they are now, what's been goin on...BASICALLY tell us the whole story. Hint: the more you tell, the more info we can use to help you. ALSO, we won't be sharing this info with any public people we have in our real life. Good luck, peace, and spread the love like butter.

To answer any questions in response to Amber's past. Dropping and forgetting about friends IS a healthy way to keep your life going without any worries. Those negative friends are like a leech, the only way to forget about it is to let it go (you can't forget about a leech on you 'coz you'll die). Relationships do help with feeling better about yourself. Friends may be able to give you the kind of comfort and love you need, but it's not the same as coming for your mates heart. Their love goes beyond that of a regular friend because they actually care for you and wouldn't want to lose you in any way. Same as a friend's love? Some might say so. To ME, the level of love is: friend, bf/gf, bff, husband/wife, family. My love is the family kind of love. For you ladies out there who have the idea of gettin with me...NO!!! All you'll get from me is brotherly love. I digress. I choose not to be in a relationship because I feel bound to be with that person for a period of time, which I am not willing to do, which explains my "family" type love. I digress again. If you don't let go of the past, you'll be stuck in your life at some point, only thinking about things that were "your" fault, when really it could've been the other persons. Chances are, if you think it's your fault, it's not. People who get pissed off when they see shrinks, therapists, counselors, etc. might get pissed because someone they don't know is telling how they should feel and deal with things. I suggest not going along with them or even go to see them because they don't give the same kind of comfort I mentioned above. Comfort? Everyone needs comfort, even those shut up metal heads out there. Alrighty then, I hope this helped anyone who read this. Peace, and spread the love like butter.