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Posted: Tue Nov 27, 2007 3:05 pm

I am 17 and life is pretty well. I have a boyfriend and a huge future for myself. I would like to be a psychologist. I want to professionally give advice instead of being guessing half the time or get stuck at something. I will need a PH.D. in psychology which is 6 years of college, also I would need to take my basic courses. I want to finish college, start a career with my hours and can work over the phone, get a high weekly income so I can travel around the world with my boyfriend with just a few dollars in my pocket. I want to be married by 24, have a child by 27 and another child by 28. Get a nice cottage in Scotland and buy things from a vegetable market. Maybe even write a few books about how i got to that point in my life.

For the people who have gone past high school , in or past college, how would you rate my life dreams?

Posted: Wed Nov 28, 2007 8:31 am

I think it is great that you have such clear dreams for your future. They sound like goals the are well worth working for. Do you keep a journal? It might be fun to see how your dreams and aspirations may change as you grow. The schooling is much easier to plan, since it only depends on your own drive. The marriage part is much harder to plan so far in advance.

After a few false starts, I finally got married at 29 and we had our son when I was 30 and our daughter 18 months later.

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Posted: Wed Nov 28, 2007 3:20 pm

I think you can do it if you put your mind to it, but you might be better off not putting deadlines on things like that. Or if you do, remember that the deadline is not as important as happiness.
If you're not careful, you could rush into one or another of these things when you're not sure or ready because you have set this deadline. Also, if you want to be married by 24, that means you will still be working on your post-graduate degree. Getting married while still in college could help, but it could also make it harder to complete your degree. Something to keep in mind.
The other thing to keep in mind: "my hours and can work over the phone" and "get a high weekly income" are very hard to combine, as are "travel around the world" and "have a child by 27 and another child by 28" when you won't be out of college until 27 or 28.

The major piece of advice I have is to spread it out, slow down, enjoy life. It's not a race. Decide when to have kids with your husband once you're married. Get married when you find the right guy, not at some arbitrarily chosen age. Your average life expectancy as a woman in the USA is well over 70, don't live all your life in the first third of it.

Posted: Thu Nov 29, 2007 1:00 am

It all sounds good, but minds change more often that you'd think. I'd say slow down and just stick to a rough gameplan. You seem to have an idea of the sort of life you'd like to lead, but in this world you'll find that you won't be able to put numbers on it. I thought I'd be done with college by now but here I am, working on an AS degree. Plans change, but that's not a bad thing. Take it easy and enjoy life as it comes. It's sound advice.

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Posted: Thu Nov 29, 2007 11:44 pm

If this is your passion, then I believe you can do it!

Posted: Fri Nov 30, 2007 1:55 pm

I had dreams somewhat similar.
I was engaged at 19... we had things all figured out.

Then the relationship ended a year later and everything fell apart.

My point is, learn to roll with the punches.
Just cos you plan it doesn't mean it'll ever happen.
Don't set dates but goals, don't set "game plans" but keep track of possibilities.
More importantly, learn to keep an open mind because if you close off to the rest of the world you may miss something WAY more important or better for you.

I'm actually quite happy with where I'm at right now. I'm 21 in a month. Breaking down my "plan" wall was one of the best things to happen to me.

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Posted: Fri Nov 30, 2007 11:15 pm

Here I am, about to become a party pooper. I'm good at that gonk

I had grand, grand dreams at 17. AMAZING plans to do GREAT things.

I'm 23. I'm not married (I thought I would be when I was 17), I am just now getting my associates (WTF. Word of advice, never move out of state.) and have 2 more years of college before I get just a bachelors (which means what a high school diploma meant 30 years ago). I am far from reaching my economic goals. rofl

Serious roadblocks can happen. You can loose loved ones, relocate, loose your livelihood, etc. and grand plans get put by the wayside.

Having been in some similar shoes to yours not that long ago, I really hope you won't put all your eggs in one basket. Expecting that to be your future can set you up for disappointment when things don't go to plan. Having done the same, it's so much easier to just 'go with life'. It's taken me 6 years to be able to do that with any success sweatdrop

Koshachey

I was engaged at 19... we had things all figured out.

Then the relationship ended a year later and everything fell apart.

You too, eh? sweatdrop I think 90% of us have the same story. Engaged to the highschool sweetheart, ready to beat the odds, and "POOF!" relationship dies. If I had a dollar for each of us that could tell a similar story, I could sit on my couch for the rest of my life eating cheetos (Ewww...on second thought...)

Posted: Sun Dec 02, 2007 4:36 pm

I'll have to be a downer too. Sorry. Your goals are great. If you have a dream then pursue it. However, be flexible. Life is what happens when you're making plans. Often things will happen that alter your plans and you need to be able to roll with the punches.

I finished High School when I was 16. I skipped a grade. Had an academic scholarship to help pay part of my schooling. I figured I'd be out of college by the time I was 20 and then go on to law school. I wanted to be a lawyer and move on to politics. It was what I wanted since I was 6 years old. Seriously. I wanted to change the world. Then once I was in college I met lawyers. Talked to politicians at events. Saw trials in action. I didn't like what I saw and realized the theory was more interesting than the reality and I didn't know what to do with myself. I had dropped out by the middle of my junior year.

I only meant to take a break, but here I am. I'll be 31 next June and only getting back to school around then. Marriage, children, divorce, deaths in the family, forced relocations, layoffs.... much more. They can get in the way. Keep your mind open to the possibilities. Don't let yourself get discouraged. Don't force your life into a box giving you no wiggle room. Be flexible. You have solid goals and you can make the goals happen. Just don't force yourself into a timeline and then get into something before you're ready. Especially marriage and children. If you want it to last you can't force it.

I hope I don't depress you with the above. Enjoy your life. You only get one. Well, unless you believe in reincarnation that is. wink

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Posted: Wed Feb 20, 2008 12:59 pm

I am doing pretty good for myself just got married bought a house and I am about to finish school. Then hopfully be able to get into my career with in a year.

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