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 Posted: Wed Oct 24, 2007 3:23 pm
Alright, so, my boyfriend, whom I live with (technically) works in the film industry and got a job in conneticut two months ago, left on september 9th, and was supposed to be back after a month. He ended up getting injured on the shoot and is still gone and must stay in CT with his family untill he recovers. He is currently in physical therapy. So now he's been gone for nearly two months. This was his first big PAYING job since we moved in together because where we live there just isn't much activity in the film industry, I understand that, and so I've been paying all the bills with no complaint, because I can see how hard he really does try.
Case 1: Even though the film shoot has been over for nearly a month, he is still getting paid because of this injury, and ALL of his medical bills are being payed for by the production company. I HAVE NOT SEEN ONE PENNY.
Case 2: I'm completely alone. Since the program I'm in at school is SO demanding, AND I have to work to pay the bills (which is actually kinda pointless since I make CRAP) I don't really have time to make friends or go hang out with anyone. And because of THAT I'm just plain not a very social person. Usually my boyfriend is all the company I have, and I'm happy with that, but now that he's gone, I'm all alone. Needless to say it gets very depressing at times, and though he does call almost every day, he doesn't seem to understand it when I get upset on the phone because I'm sad and alone.
Case 3: Last year at Christmas he had to go visit his family and I never heard the end of how miserable he was and how much he just wanted to have a Christmas of his own. Now, remembering this, I logically began to assume that me and him were gonna have a nice Christmas together, maybe just the two of us, maybe with friends, but together. I asked him today on the phone if he was going to go back to CT for christmas this year and he said that he didn't know. I know that thats not a yes or no, but still. I'm very tempted to just call him up and tell him not to bother coming home if he plans on leaving again in a month.
I've been fighting depression for over a month, and now I just seem to be sinking deeper and deeper. With the stress from school, the pointlessness of my job, and all the problems with my boyfriend, I'm not sure how much more I can take without breaking down. I'm sitting here in class nearly in tears and I don't know what to do.
Do I have a right to be upset with him? I can't even tell anymore.
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Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 12:58 pm
the injury wasnt his fault so you cant really be upset with him for having to stay up there till hes better... as for the lonelyness.. im sure youve already done this but just tell him that your lonely and getting kinda depressed cause you miss him and want to be with him.. he should understand and hopefully try and make arrangements to get home as soon as he can... i cant imagine he would do this all on purpose so you just have to try and get through it =/
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Posted: Sat Oct 27, 2007 5:18 pm
I know it wasn't his fault...I just wish he'd be more careful sometimes, he gets hurt a LOT when he's on shoots. Me and him talked a bit the other day and it turns out that he's just as miserable as I am he just tries to be cheerfull because I always seem so down. *sigh* I think that part of my depression might be coming from lack of sleep. When I should sleep or am tired I either have too much work to get done, I don't want to sleep, or I'm too sick to lie down. :/
I still don't know when he's coming home, he has to go to the doctor on the 31st and so he'll find out then if he can come home yet or not...
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Posted: Thu Nov 08, 2007 8:03 am
well hopefully its good news.. it would suck to have you seperated much longer
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Posted: Thu Nov 08, 2007 12:40 pm
Well... are you two co-renters (I'm assuming you're renting) or are just one of you the actual renter and the other just a co-inhabitant? I mean... I'd be really upset too if my boyfriend didn't send me any money to help pay for bills, especially if he was making more money than I was... The injury wasn't his fault, yeah... but especially since he's not paying the hospital bills, he should be helping you out. Try not to be too upset at the moment... I'd try talking to him about it... which, yeah, will probably make him angry and make him think that you're being inconsiderate... but it needs to be talked about since it's bothering you.
*hugs*
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Posted: Thu Nov 08, 2007 3:20 pm
Frau Svenja von Wolfsberg Well... are you two co-renters (I'm assuming you're renting) or are just one of you the actual renter and the other just a co-inhabitant? I mean... I'd be really upset too if my boyfriend didn't send me any money to help pay for bills, especially if he was making more money than I was... The injury wasn't his fault, yeah... but especially since he's not paying the hospital bills, he should be helping you out. Try not to be too upset at the moment... I'd try talking to him about it... which, yeah, will probably make him angry and make him think that you're being inconsiderate... but it needs to be talked about since it's bothering you.
*hugs* Its my name on the lease, but we're supposed to be splitting all costs 50/50. I brought it up and he said that once he gets everything straightened out(his bank has screwed him over numerous times in the last month apparently) that he's gonna send me a check. So i guess thats all worked out... I'm still so lonely though and its just keeps piling up and adding to all my stress from school that its seriously effecting my health...
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Posted: Thu Nov 08, 2007 6:41 pm
we be here for you biggrin
for.. um.. moral support and mental stability? 3nodding
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Posted: Thu Nov 08, 2007 6:59 pm
ignatius25 we be here for you biggrin
for.. um.. moral support and mental stability? 3nodding heh thanks smile
and have fun with the dwarf hamster ^^ they are fun to play with and they take allot of damage :3
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Posted: Wed Nov 14, 2007 11:17 pm
hey herbal! hows life? better? worse? same?
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Posted: Sun Nov 18, 2007 6:34 pm
ignatius25 hey herbal! hows life? better? worse? same? much better thanks! My stress levels are skyrocketing, BUT me and my bf talked everything out and he's finally on his way home right now!!! ^_^
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Posted: Sun Nov 18, 2007 6:42 pm
Herbal-Fairy ignatius25 hey herbal! hows life? better? worse? same? much better thanks! My stress levels are skyrocketing, BUT me and my bf talked everything out and he's finally on his way home right now!!! ^_^
thats great ^^
you got anything planned for when he arrives? :3
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