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Is anyone else here involved in a relationship with someone who never went beyond highschool while you're either in or have graduate post secondary?

How do you deal with school bashing? Or do you have to deal with it?

I'm just getting really frustrated in my relationship right now because my bf is constantly telling me what a waste of time and money school is and that I shouldn't do it becuase it's pointless. I try and be understanding because really for what he does he doesn't need the schooling tha tI do...It's just hard. suggestions?

When I was in high school I wanted to go straight into the work force. My senior year I decided I wanted to give the post high school education life a chance. I have never looked back since then, IMO everyone should give the university life a chance.

I agree.

I think there really is a difference between the two situations. My man is a published writer and he's good at it. He has a good job and supports himself quite nicely on it and it gives him time to write. It's not that he's not going anywhere in life, he's just not overly supportive of school in general. We've talkedabout it a bit more, and I think a large part of his issue at the moment is that my being in school really does take away from our time together and such. He's getting better about badmouthing it, but yeah.

Generally I'd agree that college is the way to go, but for some career choices it really isn't necessary. Heck if I could do what I wanted to without college I wouldn't be here...I'm a horrid student...but I do see your point in general.

thanks for your input

The only thing I'd like to point out is there's another angle. Yeah, for some, college is the answer, for their career path or for other reasons. But everyone, don't forget that for some, college/university just isn't the right path. My best friend for example, she's just not the school type. There's nothing wrong with her, but she just cannot excel at research papers or essays. Currently, she works at an old folks' home, making food and serving it, eating with the residents and brightening up their day. *shrugs* She's happy, and I think that is what matters. In contrast, I'm at post-secondary because I both like school and learning, and the career I would like to end up in needs at least a Masters.

MissMarie especially, can you see my point? Just because a guy doesn't get any post-secondary education doesn't mean that they're necessarily "ignorant", or lower in any way, and I really don't think advising someone to no longer date men who are not pursuing a higher education is fair to those men; it really all depends on what type of person/characteristics you're looking for.

College isn't for everyone - my boyfriend, for example, works for a railroad. It's the best paying job you can get in our area if you don't have a college degree. He told me what he wants to do, and the school he'd have to go there, but says "It's too late for me." (He says he doesn't want to work FT and go to school PT for 8 years so he can start a new job when he's 40) He's older than I am, so he's been in his current career for a while - and that's his choice.

Myself, on the other hand - I'm still pursing my BS. I'm taking finals this week for the last courses towards my AA at a community college in our town, and in January I'm going to start commuting. He is supportive of my decision. Yes, I know it takes away from our time together, but so does about anything else. That's a part of life. If I wasn't going to school, I would be working full time, which also takes away from our time together.

Just because he works (I'm assuming) at home and gets to dictate when he works or when he doesn't doesn't mean that *everybody* is able to. He should be supportive of your decision to get a better career (career, not job) to help improve both of your futures.