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 Posted: Sun Oct 14, 2007 5:03 pm
 Ok so...i've been with my bf for about 7 months now (not too sure, since it just happened, really...) and i love him...like, totally, completely...
Anyway, i came to Uni to study maths and Astronomy, and took Earth Science just to fill up my required amount of credits. But, i've become more interested in Earth Science than in Astronomy, and have been thinking about become a Volcanologist instead of an Astronomer.
I told my bf this and he was concerned, and i thought it was because of the dangers, which i guess i can understand
turns out it's not only that u.u he realises there's going to be alot of trvelling involved, and he says that when we're together he wants "a life WITH me, not just a marriage" (we're way serious...it's strange i know, but i'm totally committed...)
and he says he wants a family where the kids have a mother they can go to whenever they need anything...which i want too...
I'm not a very forward thinker...i mean, i WANT all those things, i just didn't think about that when i thought of my career...
but, here's the punchline...my bf says, if we can't find a way to work around that as my carrer choice and us having a life together, he'll step aside so i can "find someone you like whose interested in the same field as yourself... and they'd prolly be better for you too.."
To me, this isn't an option...no matter how happy i'd be in that career, i'd much rather be doing something else and still have him in my life...but he's so convinced that even if he has to cut himself out of my life for me to be "happy" that that's the best thing to do...
Anyway...yeh, i don't really know why i made this thread...i guess i just want some female opinions u.u 
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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 1:41 pm
Be firm with him. Smack him upside the head and tell him how much you love him and that you want to be with him, not some other guy.
My bf used to do that kind of thing to me, and I hated it. At first I felt bad and sympathetic because he kept saying, "You'll be happier with somebody else.. I don't deserve you." Then after a while I told him to shut up and just listen to me when I say that I love him.
I say to do whatever you think will make you happiest. Where are you in school? I'm sure you still have some time to decide what to do. If things are still going wonderful with him and you would like to marry him some day, ask yourself if that specific career is worth giving him up for. Then ask if you're willing to risk not getting into the field you want most just because of a boy. The general rule is that you shouldn't plan your life around a guy, but I think it varies from case to case.
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Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 3:08 pm
^^; this is the complicated part.
Ok, i moved out to go to University i little over a month ago. I've been going to Lectures for 3 weeks now. I originally came here to study Maths and Astronomy, but i've become more interested in the course i took to fill up my credits
I'm in Glasgow, and he lives in Texas...(this is generally where people get a bit sceptical...) I know i shouldn't be really set on being with him until we've met (March '08 ^^), but until that day comes i really am sure it's going to work...
Anyway, i did tell him to shut up about it, and he knows i love him...but it doesn't seem to stop him thinking i deserve someone better...
I've had to comvince him more than once already to not leave me...
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