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Posted: Mon Aug 13, 2007 6:00 pm
Article: Why Nerds Are UnpopularIt's a rather long article, but as a lot of people in this guild are school-aged, I thought it might be relevant. Do you agree? Personally I don't think I've seen a logical explanation until now, and have always thought poor attempts at esteem-building like "they're just jealous" or "bullies are just sad because no-one likes them" were fishy.
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Posted: Wed Aug 15, 2007 1:18 am
wow I read that all didn't think I would well I graduated earlier this year so yeah. I understand I guess I could be considered a nerd But I am far from smart unless by smart it is meant that you retain information until the test and put it down and forget it I probably could have been in honor society if I ever did any homework. But as the article said I have often seen the savagery in schools take football games think about what those kids would be if it were not for the sterile environment as he put it fighters,soldiers, the like overall brutes for hire. Relate schools to clans and football games end up to be clan wars even though I easily could have been a football player I felt it to be far to brutish if you know what I mean. I much preferred to delve into things that were fun no matter were I was that I couldn't get too old to play *sigh* I forgot what else I was going to say.
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Posted: Sat Aug 18, 2007 8:05 pm
So I read the whole article as well, and disagree with some things. I disagree with the whole theory that being smart makes you unpopular. I'm speaking from personal experience too. I'm 16 right now, and I'm skipping 2 years of school, which does show that I'm smart. But at my highschool, I was probably one of the top 5 most popular kids. I actually hated the popularity, but I couldn't do anything about it. I hung out with other nerds, and I liked a lot of nerdy things. I went to a catholic school, so we all wore the same thing really. So it couldn't be because I wore cool clothes or anything. My true nerd friends said it was because of my personality and my natural looks. (Hair, body type, stuff like that). Though I was the only person at my school who was considered a nerd and popular at the same time. I never really talked to or hung out with "the cool people". I always sat at the same table for lunch with 5 or 6 other people who are the best friends in the world. But I would constantly get asked out by the jocks, and cheerleaders were always trying to befriend. I just didn't like them because they were extremely stuck up and they hated my friends. Another thing I disagree with is the part about nerds being miserable. I absolutely love school. I can't wake to wake and see all my amazing friends and hang out with them all for a day. I always dreaded summer vacation because I couldn't be with them that much. I'm a very happy person, and have been almost all of my life. I know I was going to say more, but I can't remember what, and this is long enough the way it is, lol.
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Posted: Sun Aug 19, 2007 10:16 am
I think that being smart doesn't automatically make you an outsider. The fact that you don't want or need popularity does. Of course the popularity fights might be in bit smaller scale in my country than it is in the USA. It's hard to compare but I think here they might be bit milder.
When I was a kid I was nerdy and unpopular but I still had some friends. I wanted to be popular but at the same time I didn't want to do idiotic stuff to have that so I decided to concentrate on my grades instead.
My indifference to popularity increased the teasing and in some way it did make me more noticeable, since the popular girls hated me for not bowing to their "powers". I shrugged my shoulders and kept on going. Some times it was hard, because of the teasing and naming, but I kept my eyes on my goals and tried to remind my self that my future is more important.
When I went to polytechnic I had grown up. I didn't anymore care if I was popular or not. I stopped caring what other people thought of me and held my head up with a smile. Suddenly I realized the buzz around me. I had some way became semi-popular by just not trying to do it. When thinking about it I've realized that my self confidence had big part in this. In polytechnic (which is bit similar to university in some way) people are grown up. We see the world differently and dressing nicely isn't enough anymore. Yes, you'll be noticed if you are pretty, but brains have become the greater asset in terms of getting friends and popularity. I've noticed that this applies to working world as well. Good looks might get you some way but good looks and smart brains takes you to the top.
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Posted: Tue Aug 21, 2007 3:43 pm
smurflet So I read the whole article as well, and disagree with some things. I disagree with the whole theory that being smart makes you unpopular. I'm speaking from personal experience too. I'm 16 right now, and I'm skipping 2 years of school, which does show that I'm smart. But at my highschool, I was probably one of the top 5 most popular kids. I actually hated the popularity, but I couldn't do anything about it. I hung out with other nerds, and I liked a lot of nerdy things. I went to a catholic school, so we all wore the same thing really. So it couldn't be because I wore cool clothes or anything. My true nerd friends said it was because of my personality and my natural looks. (Hair, body type, stuff like that). Though I was the only person at my school who was considered a nerd and popular at the same time. I never really talked to or hung out with "the cool people". I always sat at the same table for lunch with 5 or 6 other people who are the best friends in the world. But I would constantly get asked out by the jocks, and cheerleaders were always trying to befriend. I just didn't like them because they were extremely stuck up and they hated my friends. Another thing I disagree with is the part about nerds being miserable. I absolutely love school. I can't wake to wake and see all my amazing friends and hang out with them all for a day. I always dreaded summer vacation because I couldn't be with them that much. I'm a very happy person, and have been almost all of my life. I know I was going to say more, but I can't remember what, and this is long enough the way it is, lol. He did mention all of this, within the article and in his response to the feedback he got on this. First of all, NERDS -- that is, socially inept people -- are miserable, not nerds as in smart people. Plainly if you are that popular, you're not socially inept. Second, it's mentioned that if you're particularly attractive or the sibling of another popular kid, you stand a chance.
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