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what do you think?
need more info
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just deal with her
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walk away from everything
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PostPosted: Mon Aug 24, 2009 12:08 pm


Ok so I have this "friend"... She came to me cause she was having family issues and I treated her like a lil sis and helped her as best I could. I didn't realize she was using me to get attention. By the time I did she had all my friends pittying her.

She was also my bfs rebound but thats a whole other story.

Now I feel like she's trying to take everything I've worked so hard to get and keep away from me. Shes small and easily manipulates people so they take pitty on her. I know its not right to ask my friends to choose between me and her.... but should I just walk away from all of my friends? and I mean every last one but one who doesn't associate with her anymore.... which also means my boyfriend?


Need more info post me..... I found stuff out by helping my guy but it was by mistake and I feel guilty for snooping.....
PostPosted: Tue Aug 25, 2009 2:09 pm


Okay, I know how this feels believe me.
You feel used and left out, but sometimes thats not entirely true.
Before you walk out, and sometimes this is the best thing, you should try talking it out with your friends. Make your feelings heard. If you still feel alienated, you should get away.

I have the same problem a month ago. A friend of mine and Bloody's became an attention seaking whore and started to turn everyone against each other.

In addition, I have a problem with wanting to make EVERYONE happy. It sounds like you have the same problem.

Before you get hurt, and you will if what I said is true, take a deep breath and explain.

Sorry you're having a rough time. Trust me, there will be a time you look back and wonder why it was such a problem.

Good luck

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PostPosted: Tue Aug 25, 2009 11:01 pm


I agree with Io. You need to talk to your friends, but first, I suggest talking to the girl that is causing the trouble. Tell her that you don't appreciate her doing this to you.

Along with Io, I tend to want to please all of my friends. That's not a bad thing, but when it comes down to my emotions, sometimes I just back out. If your friends aren't listening to you when you tell them how you feel, back out. Seperate yourself from them and give you and them time to think. I know it's hard being without your friends, but if they are going to treat you that way, they aren't very good friends at all.

Please keep us updated on your situation! If you need anything at all, plaese feel free to PM me.

Good luck
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PostPosted: Tue Jan 12, 2010 2:42 pm


yes you should walk away and I had that prob that's what I did stay far away from them she turned them all against me!!! stressed

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