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That sounds dangerous...

If anything, my boyfriend often accidentally hits me on my boobs.
He says he sometimes forgets they are there (I have no idea how because they always seem in the way to me). I think he's spending too much time with his ... guy friend.

o_O

You aren't allowed to have other friends?

Yes, he can have other friends.
He has a boyfriend.
He's bi.
I'm completely okay with it.

I guess he is lucky to have a girl who thinks it would be completely unfair to ask him to give up that side of him. He's attracted to guys, too, there's nothing I can do about it, and truthfully, I don't want to. I happen to like that side of him.
I mean, he's offered to stop seeing this guy, for me, but I won't let him. I don't want him to end up resenting me because he had to let go of his natural self. Plus, if he is going to give guys up, I'd rather he do it because he isn't into it anymore, not because he thinks I'm making him.
I benefit from it, anyway, so it doesn't bother me very much.

Thank you, even though I always considered myself more insane than the typical female.


I like that he has a bi boyfriend, because then, I get another boyfriend. Yay!

Uhh...yeah it is. If I was in the mood for a guy, 20 women would still not be what I wanted. You have to realize that for bisexuals, there are almost two independent sex drives, one for each sex. There is a difference between being horny for a guy and horny for a girl. And by forcing monogamy, and by extension heterogamy, you are creating a great deal of tension in that person.

Now, I've learned to deal with that by way of heavy use of homosexual pornography, as a counter balance to my completely heterosexual experiences at the moment, but not every guy can do that. Right now, I wouldn't even think to go near another girl, but I've had to stop myself numerous time from pursuing guys.

Now, I don't expect you to be able to fully grasp what I'm talking about, since you don't and won't experience it, but, you're hearing it straight from the horses mouth. Still, I love my girl enough that I can deal with a bit of repression, at least for the moment, and hope that someday she becomes a little more enlightened as to my situation.

I don't have the time to argue right now, though I could offer facts that you're still lacking.

I will say, however, that the part about my experiences and what I will or will not grasp is not something you can know. You don't know me nearly well enough to say what you have. But I don't know you well enough to want to correct you.

There are plenty of straight guys out there who aren't satisfied with just the girl they have, and can't be contented with just one partner. There are people who have certain fetishes that really do it for them, and nothing else is going to quell said desires. It's not just a matter of being bisexual and wanting a guy. Sometimes I just want a different girl. It's not something I NEED and it's not something that makes the girl less sane for not wanting to happen. We all deal with tension, and if being horny for someone you can't have is the worst stress you deal with, count yourself lucky.

Everyone wants to be needed. It's perfectly fine to be poly, if that's your thing, but not everyone is. Not everyone Can be. So expecting your girl to become 'enlightened' and suddenly not mind sharing you, simply because you want teh sexorz with someone else, is self-centered. Most people don't work like that. Whether you sleep around with men, rather than other women, it's still going to be considered disloyal by most people. You can't expect anyone to be alright with being cheated on or used, unless it's part of the prior arrangement. It works for some people. Find one of them. Don't expect your girl to change, to go against human nature, just so that you can get your mansex occasionally. Some people deny their sexdrives altogether. Surely you can cope with just getting the girl.