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8% |
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 Posted: Tue Jul 27, 2004 9:37 pm
You're quite welcome! whee
I would have hated for that banner to go or risk being altered. Is it just me, or is that Taichi and Yamato? It's been ages since I've touched Digimon, or interrupted my blissful ignorance of slash.
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Posted: Tue Jul 27, 2004 10:46 pm
Vague Bad parenting. that's bull. Don't worry about that part, I'm sure they can handle any idiot who says something like that. That's true. And I'm almost certain no one would ever say that. We're pretty good kids. Vague As for your mom's best friend... tell her, if you really feel that close to her. And tell her why you didn't tell your mom. She still might tell your mom, but when your mom finds out, just tell her you're sorry, you didn't want to disappoint her, but you are gay and there's nothing you can do to change it. I know I should tell her. And it's true, there's nothing I can do (or want to do) to change it. I like being attracted to men. Vague BTW, have you told your sister? I'm sure she'd have some advice, if you explain the problem. No. We really don't have that good of a relationship. I mean, we love eachother and have fun when we hang out, but we just don't talk about everything. I really want to tell my friends, but one of my friends would constantly make fun of me for it and another's been jokingly flirting with me all year (I secretly like him, but I don't even know if he's gay. He acts like it, but I know you can't always tell by that). Plus, one of my friends is a Christian who totally thinks it's wierd to be gay. I know people would say "just get new friends" but they were my best friends when they thought I was strait and I hope they will be now.
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Posted: Tue Jul 27, 2004 10:52 pm
Keithing You're quite welcome! whee I would have hated for that banner to go or risk being altered. Is it just me, or is that Taichi and Yamato? It's been ages since I've touched Digimon, or interrupted my blissful ignorance of slash. I have no idea who they are...I was on a "Supporters of Yaoi" thread, and I thought this was the cutest banner, and thus the one I liked the most. Sadly, it's also one of the biggest (if not the biggest) of the banners there... apparently causing problems... sweatdrop
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Posted: Tue Jul 27, 2004 10:55 pm
Keithing You're quite welcome! whee I would have hated for that banner to go or risk being altered. Is it just me, or is that Taichi and Yamato? It's been ages since I've touched Digimon, or interrupted my blissful ignorance of slash. I was on a "Supporters of Yaoi" thread and they had banners there...I liked this one the best, because it was the cutest, but sadly, it's also the biggest...I haven't got a clue who they are, though. Heh. ((Stupid errors aren't letting me post! Grrr)) EDIT: Eep...double posting...sorry all!
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Posted: Thu Jul 29, 2004 8:25 am
Rayne15 Plus, one of my friends is a Christian who totally thinks it's wierd to be gay. I used to have a christian best friend. I have very good reason to suspect he's gay, but he still hasn't come out.(If you'd been close friends with him you would agree there's a good chance he's gay) I feel kinda bad for him if he is gay, 'cause his whole family is really religious, and I'm supposing he grew up sheltered 'cause when he saw From Hell(that movie about Jack the Ripper) he was freaked out, and had never even heard of Jack the Ripper. So, asuming he is(gay), he has to either live a lie being depressed, or accept it and be depressed thinking he's going to hell. But! I'm no longer friends with him because he out of nowhere started calling me spoiled and stuff, and he never bothered to make up, and now he lives nowhere near here. The only reason I know he's not out if he is gay is 'cause one of my friends keeps in contact with him. That was alot longer than I intended >.< Stupid rants... BTW: If you're wondering why he was able to see From Hell when he's so sheltered, he wasn't supposed to. Tiz the reason he wasn't allowed to spend the night at my house anymore =B
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Posted: Thu Jul 29, 2004 8:37 am
Rayne15 Vague when your mom finds out, just tell her you're sorry, you didn't want to disappoint her, but you are gay and there's nothing you can do to change it. I know I should tell her. And it's true, there's nothing I can do (or want to do) to change it. I like being attracted to men. Heh, this is what we call artful manipulation. The point is to do a little acting, and make her feel very guilty for telling you not to be gay by acting like you're really upset about disappointing her. And as I said before, it might help to remind them that you can still get married and have a family, if you want one. Rayne15 Vague BTW, have you told your sister? I'm sure she'd have some advice, if you explain the problem. No. We really don't have that good of a relationship. I mean, we love eachother and have fun when we hang out, but we just don't talk about everything. I understand, but keep in mind she understands what you're going through better than anyone. She was in a similar position once, and she's the only person who knows your parents the same way you do. Rayne15 [I really want to tell my friends, but one of my friends would constantly make fun of me for it and another's been jokingly flirting with me all year (I secretly like him, but I don't even know if he's gay. He acts like it, but I know you can't always tell by that). Plus, one of my friends is a Christian who totally thinks it's wierd to be gay. I know people would say "just get new friends" but they were my best friends when they thought I was strait and I hope they will be now. I'm sure you've heard this before, but if they're not your friends after you come out, they were never real friends to begin with. Just don't start with the one you like so much. It will be hardest to tell him, because if he IS gay, there's a lot of talking to do about what happens next, and if he's NOT gay, then he's probably going to stop flirting with you, and you'll miss the attention. Also, it's "straight". A "strait" is a type of waterway.
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Posted: Thu Jul 29, 2004 10:07 pm
Vague Rayne15 I really want to tell my friends, but one of my friends would constantly make fun of me for it and another's been jokingly flirting with me all year (I secretly like him, but I don't even know if he's gay. He acts like it, but I know you can't always tell by that). Plus, one of my friends is a Christian who totally thinks it's wierd to be gay. I know people would say "just get new friends" but they were my best friends when they thought I was strait and I hope they will be now. I'm sure you've heard this before, but if they're not your friends after you come out, they were never real friends to begin with. Just don't start with the one you like so much. It will be hardest to tell him, because if he IS gay, there's a lot of talking to do about what happens next, and if he's NOT gay, then he's probably going to stop flirting with you, and you'll miss the attention. Also, it's "straight". A "strait" is a type of waterway. My main concern (besides my family), is telling the friend that I have a crush on. He always acts so shy around me and he can never keep a girlfriend (his last kiss from a girl was in preschool for goodness sake!). I'm just worried that if he isn't gay, the others will think their was something going on between us and start picking on him. He gets embarassed easily and I wouldn't want him to get hurt. So it's a rather odd position you see. And thanks for the spelling lesson! lol And sorry for being such a whiney pain, but I don't really have a lot to turn to right now.
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Posted: Sun Aug 01, 2004 1:24 pm
Nusumi I'm just wondering how old everyone was when(if) they came out. You can also tell stories of your coming out here if you want. I'm not fully out, I'm only out to my friends, not my family sweatdrop And also, my friends only know I'm bi(as I as bi when I came out to them) but now I'm more gay than bi. It was allmost a year ago, in october/november(right after I turned 16) =B So since I'm not fully out, other sweatdrop PS: If you want to come out but are afraid, you can post here and hopefully you'll get support 3nodding i just recently came out... so the 1st person i told was my best friend, a male... after i told him... he stopped talking to me... we never talk anymore... this was like 6 months ago... hestill wont talk to me... we knew all each others secrets... we totally trusted each other.... so i tell him my secret... and he hates me... it really hurt.... alot of guys wont talk to me except to make fun of me... course i got the girls all over me, but wat good is that wen im gay?
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Posted: Sun Aug 01, 2004 1:59 pm
Kenuyasha i just recently came out... so the 1st person i told was my best friend, a male... after i told him... he stopped talking to me... we never talk anymore... this was like 6 months ago... hestill wont talk to me... we knew all each others secrets... we totally trusted each other.... so i tell him my secret... and he hates me... it really hurt.... alot of guys wont talk to me except to make fun of me... course i got the girls all over me, but wat good is that wen im gay? yeah, that sux. I know it's tough, but you're young yet, things will get better. did he say what the problem was?
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Posted: Mon Aug 02, 2004 1:48 am
I'm out to my friends and family. I'm pretty femme, and I don't have a girlfriend, so it doesn't really come up in conversations, and most straight people in my area assume everyone is straight. If someone asks me outright or asks if I have a boyfriend, I correct them, but I don't tell people who I first meet for a looong while if we remain friends.
What was this thread about...oh, yes. So, my best friend I tried to tell when I was 16 and confused. I asked her something like, "you know when you see a cute guy, and you're like, 'he's cute!' then you see a cute girl and you think the same thing?" She was like...uh, no. Then when I was about 18 and still confused, I told my mom I thought I might be bisexual, but I didn't know, and she said whatever I discovered about myself would be fine with her (she raised me very open, so I always was comfortable talking about it with her). Then when I was 20 and got my first girlfriend, I came out to my family. Everyone who really mattered to me was really cool with it.
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Posted: Tue Aug 03, 2004 12:24 am
I came out last November. It was so cool, I used to have nothing but guy friends, and now Im friends with like every girl in school. But im only half way out, my parrents still don't know... i cant find the right way to tell them. i think im gonna try to make it funny.
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Posted: Tue Aug 03, 2004 1:09 pm
I came out when i was 14 and everyone in my family accepted it to my suprise eek I havnt been harassed about it much, although i almost got ran over but that person is in jail now for running someone over 3nodding
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Posted: Thu Aug 05, 2004 7:46 am
Vague Kenuyasha i just recently came out... so the 1st person i told was my best friend, a male... after i told him... he stopped talking to me... we never talk anymore... this was like 6 months ago... hestill wont talk to me... we knew all each others secrets... we totally trusted each other.... so i tell him my secret... and he hates me... it really hurt.... alot of guys wont talk to me except to make fun of me... course i got the girls all over me, but wat good is that wen im gay? yeah, that sux. I know it's tough, but you're young yet, things will get better. did he say what the problem was? yeah, the problem is that my male friends were dumbass bitches... they just don't like gays... some say they don't want a gay dude grabbing their balls... but they trusted me before I came out... o well, im over it anyway... they can all go f**k themselves.
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Posted: Thu Aug 05, 2004 7:59 am
I came out about 2 months ago. I'm 18 turning 19........ At first I thought I should'nt have waited that long tho.... sweatdrop
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Posted: Thu Aug 05, 2004 8:07 am
daveizoid85 I came out about 2 months ago. I'm 18 turning 19........ At first I thought I should'nt have waited that long tho.... sweatdrop yeah... its better to c** out younger... ull benefit more xd
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