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Dear Bonzi,

I'm in a real pickle of a perdicament... Wednesday night I'm going to be in Gettysburg, PA for the 142 anniversary. My boyfriend has been gone since Friday and won't be home until late Sunday night, same as myself. The thing is, he's going to be ten minutes away from where I'm heading off to, but I can't steal him away for a weekend because the people he's with paid for him to go to this reenactment. These people are really nice, but they want their daughter to go out with him. She's 13 and he's 16 and views her as a little sister, now an annoying, depressive, "I can't do a thing to help her because she never listens" sister. I haven't gotten to see him for going on two weeks, but my parents made a plan to go and spend time with his family, so it will be a weekend with just our two families ((way better than having shadows)). But that's not until the 15th and I'm really starting to miss him.

I honestly don't know what to do. Should I try to convince my parents to go and see the group for a few or do I just suck it up and continue to be thankful that I get to talk to him online? When I move, I'll be 45 minutes away from him so I won't have to deal with this for too long...

Thanks for being here.

Deep-feeling-red-chick

Dear Bonzi,

Thanks so much. It did help and I know it's just natural to miss someone you enjoy spending time with. I can wait patiently for the next two weeks.

And he has stated it to her family, his family ((and his family adores me)), and her. It just seems as though it's taking forever to get through their thick heads.

But thanks again.

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Deep-feeling-red-chick

Dear Bonzi,

The only thing is if that happened, the girl would become drastic and even more depressed than she already is. I find that she needs major theorapy because of all that she has gone through. Not only that, but his family reenacts with theirs, so there is no knife to cut the tie until he's in college.

Sincerely,
Deep-feeling-red-chick

Dear Bonzi,

The vast majority of my friends are at least a year older than me. Most of them graduated a few weeks ago, and will be heading off to various colleges (mostly a fair distance away) in a month or two. This means I'll be starting my senior year without most of my friends around. crying

But I've come to terms with that. The reason I'm writing is because my parents are being crazy. I got my driver's lisence recently, and I'm a fantastic driver, if I do say so myself, but my they only let me drive to work (5 minutes away), and church on Sundays! I understand they want me to get more driving experience before I just go driving around, but its not really experience if its the same two places every time!

It's not like there are a whole ton of places I want to go, or very far, and I don't want to just drive around aimlessly just for the sake of driving, as my mother for some reason thinks I do. I just want to be able to go hang out at my friends houses (which I can't much, because they won't let me drive at night, and I have work all day), and take them out sometimes (the one's without their own cars, that is. and that can't happen because the parentals won't let me have anyone but them in my car). So they're making it really difficult to see my friends the last summer before they go off to college and get lives!

How can I convince my parents I'm responsible enough, and a good enough driver to drive at night, and with my friends in my car? I'm not easily distracted, but my mom doesn't believe me, because when she's in the car with me, she freaks out about every little thing, so I do get distracted! But when I tell my friends to shut up, they do, so it's not a problem!

I'm going to stop babbling now, but I sure could use some advice on how to persuade the parentals to not screw up my last summer with my friends!

Sincerely,
Driven-Nuts-By-Crazy-Restrictions

Thankee! Good advice... we'll see what happens!

*starts looking into the Jedi mind trick as backup*

Dear Low and Paranoid,

When someone betrays a persons trust, it is often hard for that person to be able to regain the level of trust that existed before the action or actions that took that trust away.

It is totally understand able why you are feeling this way. I wish that I had some sort of words that would make this pain go away, but I just don't. You decided to continue with this relationship, hopefully knowing that these feelings would come up again.

I think you should sit down with this person, and discuss this problem, and that is what it is, a problem. You have a situation in your relationship that NEEDS to be dealt with. Ignoring this on either side, will not make it go away. It will be there FOREVER. Both of you need to talk through it, and if a resolution can be made, great. If not, then the realtionship needs to end.

I know that would be painful, but is this such a good feeling that you are having right now?

Just talk to the person, and lay everything out, get all your concerns and fears out and known.

Thats really all I got, I wish it were more. *hugs*

Dear Always confused,

I think you should write down the situation on a piece of paper, and make two columns. One column is the pros the other cons. Write down all the pros of doing said situation, as well as all the cons.

This way you have a record of how you 'think' the situation will turn out if you do said action.

As to the question if its better to forget, it depends on what the situation is. If the situation is to flip out, and cause bodily harm to someone. You may want to rethink that course of action. That may be better to forget.

Unless this person has caused you some serious harm/pain, then perhaps a little bodily harm to the person wouldn't be soooo bad. wink

I hope this helped.