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Yeah, the reasons Ayasugii and I are getting married are mostly for practical reasons, not because we buy into everything attacted to it.
1. legal benifits (taxes, visitation rights in the hospital, etc)
2. Maybe her mother will treat us better (rant about that below)
3. ...
4. PROFIT!

We had previously decided not to get married even though we were pretty sure we would be spending our lives together (15 years of friendship and 7 months living together without any real problems is a good sign of that). We had partially decided that out of silent protest to the anti-gay marrage laws that have been passed in many states, including our own and partially because we don't like how marrage is often seen as a "holy bond" and s**t like that. Once we got to looking at the benifits though, we decided that it would be a good idea (especially with the help we could get that is not offered to non-married people. We are both currently unemployed and living off my parent's good will until we can get jobs which is hard for both of us for different reasons.) Anyway, rant time:

[rant]Around early-december we are invited to spend christmas with her family. We make our plans around this and prepare. Late christmas ******** eve (shortly before we were to head over there) we get a call from her dad saying "I've just been informed that Cole is actually NOT invited to christmas dinner." He then goes on to say that I could come over for a while that night but I couldn't stay the night and I couldn't come with them to her grandparent's place for dinner.

We knew that this was either the doing of her mother or her grandmother. We talk it over for a while and she decided to go so that she doesn't cause any more damage to her already frayed relationship with her mother. So she goes and I spend christmas alone and myserable. When she came back, she told me that the first thing her grandmother said to her was "What, no Cole?" It was all her mother.

It's not that I even like christmas. We were previously planning on doing absolutly nothing because we both dislike christmas. It's just that I get lonely very easily. There's also the fact that she stabbed me in the ******** back. Last time I tried talking to her she mostly ignored me, but when she would respond it would be a grunt (well, not a grunt, but equally offensive and I don't really know what to call it). We haven't even been able to tell her that we are engaged and we are getting married on March 15th. sweatdrop
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Hi I'm Scott. I am friends with Calitar and Ayasugii. I never really like the idea of having kids, but it never seem to be a big deal for me. I thought most guys felt the same way and just had kids because they get women that want them. I am starting to see that many men love the scripted life. Go to collage, get a job, find a woman, get married and have kids. eek *Scary*

For me I do not want children. I hope to find a woman that feels the same way. Having said that I do not know if I would do what phi one zero did and leave a dream girl because she wanted kids. I hope I never get put into that spot.

The world has too many people in it anyway. So why make more? And even if I really wanted to spread my genes (and I don't) I would go donate sperm. Being a father is hard. Masturbating is easy.

I've never been particularly good at introductions, but here goes. My name's Justin, I'm 22 years old, and the last thing I would ever want is a child. The reasons for this are manifold:

I had horrible parents of my own, so any chance of me knowing how to properly rais a child is automatically severely hampered. I'm a writer, so I need time to concentrate on my work; I can't very well do that if I'm running around changing diapers, picking up my offspring from practice, or dealing with the hundreds of other issues that arise because of children. And then there's the fact that I just don't like kids.

The classic example I give is comparing them to SUVs. The average child is, in my experience, loud, annoying, dirty, and requires far too much time, money, and effort to keep it in working condition. And you can never be sure they won't just suddenly flip over and break something. If other people want them, that's fine so long as I don't have to deal with them. But I would never get one of my own.

Some people have called me heartless for this; others have called me stupid, ignorant, and narrow-minded. But I know how I view children, and that isn't going to change. I value my time, money, and personal life far too much to throw them away by having kids.

I was planning on getting a vasectomy soon, until I found out I'd been gravely misinformed about the price. (It turned out to cost about twice as much as I'd been previously informed. confused ) But I'm probably getting long-winded here.

Haha, I suppose it's worth a shot if I get desperate at least. xp

Wow, I feel really sorry for you... If you ever need some help, you can ask pretty much anyone here, everyone seems very nice, and most people are willing to talk. I've been through pretty traumatic experiences also, but not as bad as that. All the advice I can give you is that everything does get better in time.

I go by Sensedog when online. My real name is Aaron. I am 21 and have no plans to ever have children of my own, and I am happy with that thought and content with being childfree for the rest of my life if that is to be in my future.

I had seen the banners for this guild around Gaia and then wondered why I wasn't a member myself, at which point I asked to join. I am a crew member for the pro-choice guild as well, and have been with that guild since the it's creation.

One of the main reasons that I am content with never having children of my own is that I grew-up with three younger brothers whom I often had to care for when my father was away at work, since my mother had...well, serious issues. She no longer lives with us as a result. It wasn't easy

So anyway, I am glad to be here.

*shy and giggly* you look pretty... whee