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 Posted: Fri Mar 27, 2009 2:56 am
Yeah that is very true.. I understand your predicament n__n I mean, I don't even know how my husband will get told when I'm going into labor!
And I agree. Also with R&R, I suggest giving them a little personal time as well.
A little for jet lag and a little to just have quiet time by themselves to just.. well ENJOY the quietness. My dad's R&R he spent the first week resting and visited me seldom, but he needed the quiet time to finally get some sleep and some good rest. The next week he was up and ready to go out!
Plus, I was just happy knowing he was getting his rest and was home and okay.
I know my husband will probably do the same thing since this will be his first deployment, chances are if it's their first it might be a little difficult for them to adjust, but they will don't worry ^_^
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Posted: Fri Mar 27, 2009 3:00 am
He will be informed via Red Cross Messages.
If its something really important, like, emergency bad, only send a Red Cross Message, its the only official way to tell them. If you send it any other way it's not official and there is nothing he can do about the situation. Other then sit there and wait for the official news.
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Posted: Fri Mar 27, 2009 3:02 am
Ahhh, well then I hope he's somewhere available to the news!
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Posted: Fri Mar 27, 2009 3:05 am
Red Cross will get the message to him anywhere. Unless he is on a mission, then he will get it as soon as possible.
Also during Deployment (or anytime really) remember to keep your ICE (in case of emergency) contacts up to date.
Its a good idea to type up a card with pertinent medical information and stick it in your wallet behind your ID.
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Posted: Fri Mar 27, 2009 2:23 pm
My husbands also half way through his 12 month deployment.
I just keep myself busy. I knit, read, write just a whole bunch of different things. I also make him care packages whenever I get really upset, it rarely happens anymore, but sometimes he'd get 3 care packages a week. lol.
Deployment sucks, but theres nothing you can really do about it. Just stay strong and carry on.
My mom always tells me to have faith. I know shes meaning it in reference to God, but I take it as having faith in my husband and his squad that they're doing their best and only good can come of it.
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Posted: Fri Mar 27, 2009 9:30 pm
Exotic_Memories My husband is currently halfway through a 12 month deployment. I won't lie, it is one of the hardest things I have ever gone through, at least emotionally. Before he leaves there should be meetings with the FRG (family readiness group) and they will provide you with information on coping skills and various other things you will need to know during a deployment. Such as phone numbers for Echo Company, financial planning and just stuff like that in general. I'm normally not scared of the dark, but the first few nights he was gone I had to have a night light in my bedroom (actually it was a chem light until I got nightlights). Now I am find in the bedroom but I have a few scattered about the apartment. I sleep on his side of the bed now, when he is here I sleep on the right side, when he left it bugged me that there wasn't something on my left side. So I sleep on his side and its not as strange. I tend to wear his shirts to bed Before he left, he got me a teddy bear that he gave a hug and a kiss, that way when I am lonely, I can hug it and I am hugging him. I write him long letters because that way I feel as if I am actually talking to him. Because I am staying by myself in Alaskaland, for my husbands peace of mind, I do have a handgun that he has trained me with. It stays in the night stand drawer. It helps him feel as if I am safer. Sorry for the rambling, those are just some of the methods I use to cope. As always, friends and family help loads. Keeping busy does as well. I set a weekly ritual, for me its a TV show, that I watch every week, just to mark that a week has passed. tl;dr: E_M has quirks that help her deal with deployment That's how I feel when I write my guy letters ... I like to think I'm speaking directly to him as I am writing when I feel my loneliest ... even if I can't hear his voice talking back to me. He just left on the 17th which wasn't too long ago. He'll be gone for a year but he comes back for a couple weeks sometime in July which is the estimated time ...
He sent me a bear on valentines day ... but it's one he ordered off a website and had it sent directly to my house so it was never in contact with him ... but I still cling to it in my sleep, anyway. :/ I guess that makes it seem like it's not as special and I don't mean it like that ... I guess I just like to think if he had held it or touched it before he sent it to me I'd be able to feel his presence better ... I dunno ...
It's only been ten days since he left ... and I got one 20 minute phonecall from him since then ... I was afraid I would have gone insane just by three days of not hearing his voice but I am coping pretty well so far. I hope he gets internet soon or I get another phonecall ... the eight hour time difference kinda sucks, though ... so I dunno how often we'd be online at the same time or if I'd get all his phonecalls ...
But I suppose in time we'll see.
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Posted: Fri Mar 27, 2009 9:36 pm
we have an 11 hour time difference currently. He doesn't call nearly enough, but thats not his fault, its not the most developed FOB. so, I get about one call a week, maybe two.
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Posted: Sat Mar 28, 2009 9:44 am
My dad just came home yesterday and I actually talked to him about this thread lol.
He expects me to look out for all the army wives around here, since I have a much bigger understanding of whats going on.
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Posted: Sat Mar 28, 2009 12:59 pm
Rochili My dad just came home yesterday and I actually talked to him about this thread lol. He expects me to look out for all the army wives around here, since I have a much bigger understanding of whats going on. That's pretty cool. I've only been an Army dependent for a bit under two years now, but with all that we have already been through, I feel pretty experienced.
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Posted: Sun Mar 29, 2009 8:34 pm
I'm already stocking up on funny movies.
I get the feelin I'll need them.
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Posted: Sun Mar 29, 2009 8:38 pm
RabenKrahe I'm already stocking up on funny movies. I get the feelin I'll need them. You will for the first couple of months, thats for sure. But, it gets a little bit easier as time goes by.
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Posted: Sun Mar 29, 2009 8:43 pm
-old cupcake- RabenKrahe I'm already stocking up on funny movies. I get the feelin I'll need them. You will for the first couple of months, thats for sure. But, it gets a little bit easier as time goes by. Movie night definitely helps.
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Posted: Sun Mar 29, 2009 8:46 pm
Movie night helps a hell of a lot.
I definitely suggest it.
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Posted: Sun Mar 29, 2009 8:52 pm
RabenKrahe I'm already stocking up on funny movies. I get the feelin I'll need them. Movie night at my place since you aren't that far!! Well it will have to be a girls weekend lol
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Posted: Sun Mar 29, 2009 8:57 pm
Marilyn-J-Monroe RabenKrahe I'm already stocking up on funny movies. I get the feelin I'll need them. Movie night at my place since you aren't that far!! Well it will have to be a girls weekend lol WEE!!!! ^.^ A Girls Movie Weekend. Bwaahahaha. With PAJAMAS. And shopping.
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