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She is right, even though this may be just a website, it can be a very big first step. It's always easier to come out to your friends and family with a supporting group of people who know what it feels like.

Astri and Hasunuma are both right, the internet is a valuable resource for support. The only way I keep up with what's being stirred up around the world is through GLBT news resources, and they're also the reason I came out. It became ridiculous to believe that I was the only one miserable when people were being executed in Egypt, even when it is only an accusation, or denied rights and liberties that they should be entitled to in my own backyard. It wasn't a question of if I was gay, it was more: why am I so ashamed of being gay? Before 16, my closest friends and older sister knew, then it just became pretty common knowledge.

Last summer, my dad decided he would take a quick flip through the internet history and My Documents and came across what he proclaimed to be "porn" and sexually graphic websites (because 365 Gay and Planet Out turn me on! rolleyes ) Very loose definition of pornographic material, when each and every one of the male figures was at least wearing pants! I cracked, my father snapped, and my mom is still "digesting" it all.

Not the most ideal situation, but at least the cat is out of the bag. After I sit down with the parental units to finish the job, it's home free. Whose bright idea was it to crazy glue that closet doorknob?

I'm slowly coming out. A few people know already, and I'm kinda afraid as to what's gonna happen once college starts again in September. Will people start avoiding me now? Will certain people wanna hang out with me more often? etc. redface

But as for my parents, I don't have any immediate plans of telling them concidering they're big time homophobes. They'll either find out when I'm with someone, or I might tell them in the heat of anger and spite. rolleyes

That's what I thought too, but it can catch up to you. Anger and spite are horrid little things, when I said "my father snapped," we had a a 2 hour debate in the middle of the night and all the windows were open. Now the only time he mentions it is in arguments about civil rights and my "future." I'm just grateful that I wasn't forced out for being "abnormal" (his words, not mine).

My own parents are not even that homophobic (my dad was born in the early 1950s, so his ideas are a bit outdated). They have never been violent or attempted to change my mind in the whole year since I told them. But be prepared, have a contingency plan, namely a place to stay if and when you do tell them just in case.

I don't cling to ppl or hug people just cuz they are gay. ^-^ I'm just a very loving person. I really just want to be everyones friend, no matter how they treat me (and that can get me in some trouble sometimes ><') So yea -shrugs- Just so you know.

It's best to start with trusting friends in my opinion. The very first friend I told turned out to be an exchange of secrets XD He told me he was gay and I told him I was bi(but that was allmost a year ago, and now I'm more gay than bi)

Well, she can't make you join the military, and don't ever let her convince you you don't have a choice. You always have a choice.


Justified. It's such a major fact, she can't afford to not be aware of it. And how cruel is she, in refusing to listen?


The longer you wait to confront them, the worse it will get and the tougher your fight will be.



Oy. Bet you learned a lesson about covering your tracks. Why don't kids realize how easy it is to trace their usage?


As I mentioned in my story, I came out to avoid losing the support of the internet. It's great and powerful, indeed.

Well, why do you believe they hate gays? And whereabouts do you live? If you live in a good community, you might try asking to speak to your school's counsellor.