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 Posted: Sat Nov 03, 2007 12:04 am
slayer71289 princesschelsea5 slayer71289 princesschelsea5 slayer71289 No, change is natural...but how are you changing? *hugs back* I'll always be right here for you. Feel free to add me as your friend too wink Well...because you've been traumatized, you're as trusting of others and so you feel you need to be more defensive towards others. In time it won't be so bad, you'll be able to trust again, I know you will. It's a slow process but, you're getting better and that's what important right?
I just hope I don't lose myself in the process... why am I so stupid sometimes? Every single time a guy tries to take advantage of me, I just freeze, the words get stuck in my throat, and I can't seem to say no as many times as I should ((as if you should have to say it more than once))I know! You should only have to say no once! I don't think it's right they should keep on about it...if she says NO IT MEANS NO! right?
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Posted: Sat Nov 03, 2007 2:10 pm
princesschelsea5 slayer71289 princesschelsea5 slayer71289 princesschelsea5 slayer71289 No, change is natural...but how are you changing? *hugs back* I'll always be right here for you. Feel free to add me as your friend too wink Well...because you've been traumatized, you're as trusting of others and so you feel you need to be more defensive towards others. In time it won't be so bad, you'll be able to trust again, I know you will. It's a slow process but, you're getting better and that's what important right?
I just hope I don't lose myself in the process... why am I so stupid sometimes? Every single time a guy tries to take advantage of me, I just freeze, the words get stuck in my throat, and I can't seem to say no as many times as I should ((as if you should have to say it more than once))I know! You should only have to say no once! I don't think it's right they should keep on about it...if she says NO IT MEANS NO! right? Well....technically you don't have to be stronger, you just have to know how to take of of yourself. Like me, my brother taught me how to fight and wrestle and stuff like that...he also trained me to be strong too but that's besides the point...Yeah sure I come from a small town but stuff like that happens anywhere you go. Most guys are afraid me cause I intimidate them when I'm not all that....people who are close to me know that I'm only big and strong when I have to be. Most of the time I'm a big gentle "teddy bear"
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Posted: Sat Nov 03, 2007 2:47 pm
slayer71289 princesschelsea5 slayer71289 princesschelsea5 slayer71289 Well...because you've been traumatized, you're as trusting of others and so you feel you need to be more defensive towards others. In time it won't be so bad, you'll be able to trust again, I know you will. It's a slow process but, you're getting better and that's what important right?
I just hope I don't lose myself in the process... why am I so stupid sometimes? Every single time a guy tries to take advantage of me, I just freeze, the words get stuck in my throat, and I can't seem to say no as many times as I should ((as if you should have to say it more than once))I know! You should only have to say no once! I don't think it's right they should keep on about it...if she says NO IT MEANS NO! right? Well....technically you don't have to be stronger, you just have to know how to take of of yourself. Like me, my brother taught me how to fight and wrestle and stuff like that...he also trained me to be strong too but that's besides the point...Yeah sure I come from a small town but stuff like that happens anywhere you go. Most guys are afraid me cause I intimidate them when I'm not all that....people who are close to me know that I'm only big and strong when I have to be. Most of the time I'm a big gentle "teddy bear"
I didn't mean that kind of stronger, I meant strong enough to not freeze whenever a man is molesting me or my body.
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Posted: Sat Nov 03, 2007 2:53 pm
princesschelsea5 slayer71289 princesschelsea5 slayer71289 princesschelsea5 slayer71289 Well...because you've been traumatized, you're as trusting of others and so you feel you need to be more defensive towards others. In time it won't be so bad, you'll be able to trust again, I know you will. It's a slow process but, you're getting better and that's what important right?
I just hope I don't lose myself in the process... why am I so stupid sometimes? Every single time a guy tries to take advantage of me, I just freeze, the words get stuck in my throat, and I can't seem to say no as many times as I should ((as if you should have to say it more than once))I know! You should only have to say no once! I don't think it's right they should keep on about it...if she says NO IT MEANS NO! right? Well....technically you don't have to be stronger, you just have to know how to take of of yourself. Like me, my brother taught me how to fight and wrestle and stuff like that...he also trained me to be strong too but that's besides the point...Yeah sure I come from a small town but stuff like that happens anywhere you go. Most guys are afraid me cause I intimidate them when I'm not all that....people who are close to me know that I'm only big and strong when I have to be. Most of the time I'm a big gentle "teddy bear"
I didn't mean that kind of stronger, I meant strong enough to not freeze whenever a man is molesting me or my body.Meh, I learned from the best, my 3 older sisters.sorry to be so blunt but yeah.....
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Posted: Sat Nov 03, 2007 3:23 pm
slayer71289 princesschelsea5 slayer71289 princesschelsea5 slayer71289 I know! You should only have to say no once! I don't think it's right they should keep on about it...if she says NO IT MEANS NO! right? Well....technically you don't have to be stronger, you just have to know how to take of of yourself. Like me, my brother taught me how to fight and wrestle and stuff like that...he also trained me to be strong too but that's besides the point...Yeah sure I come from a small town but stuff like that happens anywhere you go. Most guys are afraid me cause I intimidate them when I'm not all that....people who are close to me know that I'm only big and strong when I have to be. Most of the time I'm a big gentle "teddy bear"
I didn't mean that kind of stronger, I meant strong enough to not freeze whenever a man is molesting me or my body.Meh, I learned from the best, my 3 older sisters.sorry to be so blunt but yeah.....
I never learned it, I never had the chance. I wasn't taught to be wary of anything. I was only taught to be something else. It's not easy for me, I try my best to be strong, but then... something always seems to hurt me crying Not only that, but I only have brothers, no sisters.
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Posted: Sat Nov 03, 2007 3:39 pm
I'm sorry. I have 3 sisters and one brother. You'll learn someday, I know you will, ok? wink
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Posted: Sat Nov 03, 2007 3:44 pm
slayer71289 I'm sorry. I have 3 sisters and one brother. You'll learn someday, I know you will, ok? wink
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Posted: Sat Nov 03, 2007 3:53 pm
princesschelsea5 slayer71289 I'm sorry. I have 3 sisters and one brother. You'll learn someday, I know you will, ok? wink practice makes better, nothing perfect. Nothing, nobody, nor anything is perfect. But you can make things better. One of the coolest teachers at my old High School taught us that.
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Posted: Sat Nov 03, 2007 4:07 pm
slayer71289 princesschelsea5 slayer71289 I'm sorry. I have 3 sisters and one brother. You'll learn someday, I know you will, ok? wink practice makes better, nothing perfect. Nothing, nobody, nor anything is perfect. But you can make things better. One of the coolest teachers at my old High School taught us that.
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Posted: Sat Nov 03, 2007 4:18 pm
I know. That's why I said it. And you're welcome. If you ever need a friend, I'm here for ya wink
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Posted: Sun Nov 04, 2007 5:08 pm
slayer71289 I know. That's why I said it. And you're welcome. If you ever need a friend, I'm here for ya wink
Thank you, and not just you, all of you. THank you crying It's not been easy after what happened to me, but I hope ... things will improve crying
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Posted: Sun Nov 04, 2007 7:26 pm
Time heals most things. I'm sure things will get better for you wink
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Posted: Fri Nov 09, 2007 5:37 pm
I hope so, I really really do.
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Posted: Sat Nov 17, 2007 5:27 pm
So how've you been? have things been getting better? I'm checking in on you cause I haven't heard a thing since I last posted here
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Posted: Mon Nov 19, 2007 1:21 am
slayer71289 So how've you been? have things been getting better? I'm checking in on you cause I haven't heard a thing since I last posted here
I'm in more therapy, and hopefully getting the help I need. I took a class on helping a woman know how to identify and avoid sexual predatory men. And how to use words to get out of the situation, how to tell others if something is wrong or feels wrong and to listen to your inner voice.
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