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Do you view it wrong if someone spanks their child more than in "certain circumanstances"? At what age do you think that corporal punishment should not be used? Why do you view it as wrong? What other circumstances do you feel that using corporal punishment is acceptable?

Yeah, I think so. If you spank a child for throwing up on the carpet, that's wrong.

Shouldn't be used past twelve, that's when it gets embarrasing.

I think it's wrong for a parent to hit a child for small incidents because they can be dealt with in plenty of other acceptable ways- for a small child, a stern voice is usually enough. For an older one, loss of a privlage or extra chores gets the message across.

Also cheating on tests, fighting at school, that sort of more severe thing. Not for doing badly on a test, ever.

I go with minimal use of spanking. To tell the truth, I was raised with minimal corporal punishment by my mom. After I was around 8 she spanked me less and less until fortunately she completely stopped. I think it was around 9 or 10 that she stopped spanking me all together. At first, I thought she just got tired of it or thought that others would look at her badly (childish thought; I know stare ). Then I realized it's not really that but that I'm grown enough come to conclusions with words.

What I'm trying to say is that corporal punishment should be enforce though there should be a limit. Like a parent can't beat their kids until they're all bruised and stuff. My mom never spank me so hard that I had a bruise, ever. Corporal punishment should only be used to give a lesson to a kid. It should not be violated to the point that it was only used for entertainment or as some kind of stress-relief method. I believe it also should not be the first priority in punishing kids.

Say a kid broke a glass of water by accident, you shouldn't use corporal punishment on that. Just warn them and stuff like that. And if the kid got into a fight for the first time in their life, just warn them first. If they continue to fight then corporal punishment may be used. So basically, coporal punishment should be used on repeating actions/issues.

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In that situation, I would believe it's the right way. Just don't slap too hard. If a toddler is reaching for a stove, just shouting wouldn't be enough to stop them. They might turn their face your way to see what you're fussing about, but their hands might already touch the stove and ended up hurting themselves. One other possible way to teach the toddler in this situation is to let them get hurt by the stove and let them remember for themselves that it is hot. But who would want their own kid to get hurt, especially getting burned or scarred?

I personally don't think it is necessary, though it probably depends on the child/ their behavior. My brother and I were never given any form of physical punishment and we turned out fine. However, my friend and her siblings were all spanked, and she is fine but her younger brother and sister still act up.

I'm in favor of spanking as long as its not crossing into beating. By beating I mean leaving bruises, or marks of any kind that last longer than 5 to 10 minutes.

My parents spanked my sister and I growing up, and I can say from experience we behaved most of the time because as soon as Dad even threatened to take off his belt we started doing what we were supposed to. Neither I, or my sister have sustained any sort of mental damage from the way we were punished.

As for when it should stop:
I believe once they hit middle school they're too old to be bent over and spanked. At that point they're dealing with 'coolness' issues and it could be embarrassing and cause resentment problems. My mom slapped me in the mouth once for talking back in the seventh grade, but that was pretty much it. After that its more effective to use grounding as a means of punishment. Don't let the kid go to that school dance they want so badly to attend.

I feel the lack of corporal punishment over the past several years is directly linked the behavioral issues seen in many of today's children. They are spoiled, and don't experience consequences for their actions. As stated earlier, a pecking order must be established. Also, unless a child is coming to school with bruises, other people need to keep out of that family's business. My mom threatened to spank my sister in HEB one time, and had a woman nearby start lecturing her about spanking and even threatened to call CPS. This isn't acceptable either.

There needs to be more tolerance where corporal punishment is used because as much as people may not want to admit it, sometimes its the best means of punishment.

So we're all basically in agreement? o_o

Ah, well, we just didn't get any of the child rights activists in the guild.