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If I ever feel a yerning for a kid, I'll do the sane thing and buy a cat or two.

Lucky.

I get s**t all the time from people telling me "One day it will happen." They, even parents, have been telling me the same crap ever since I was 14 and now that I am 23, my mind never changed. I will never fall in love, get married, and have kids. It isn't happening. I am still stuck filling the wishes of my parent's needs with no independence of my own at all and if I ever do live on my own, I do not ever want to take care of any other human ever again. Just me, myself, and my plants, animals, job, my brain, and video games. Children will never be in my future. If I ever did (In some alternate universe) want to have children, I would adopt.

They're the only ones willing.

Haha... I'll have to try that! xd

Anyways, at family gatherings I'll sometimes get the "When you have kids..." or "Are you planning on having kids when you grow up?" With the former I'll just keep my yap shut to avoid any further arguements which may arise, and with the latter I'll just say that I don't really want kids, and for the most part that conversation will end there (occasionally I'll have to explain my reasoning, while all my aunts/uncles/etc. go on about how absolutely wonderful the little crotch-droppings are... but whatever...).

My mom sometimes that i'll probably change my mind eventually, but she'll support me no matter what (though I think she does want grandkids, and I have no clue where my bro stands on the matter of kids)... but my mom dosn't really bring it up often... just once in a blue moon it'll come up.

Three weeks ago (maybe more), I went in and had a pilonidal abscess drained. It was extremely painful. The nurse said, "This is nothing, wait 'til you have kids!"
"Hell no!" I retorted.

The nurse that comes in to change my packing and dressing got into that conversation with me, too. She's pregnant, and I didn't want to give her my full reasons because, well... I'm in a position where I don't want to offend her. razz (Hello? There's an open wound in my back!) This was last week. I said I have no interest, I don't like children, my job has helped contribute to that (I work(ed) at a grocery store, and before that, at a garage), I have little threshold for pain, etc., etc. No interest in what I want, it's always, "Oh, don't worry, you'll change your mind!"

It has started popping up more regularly as of late. I also - or so my doctor thinks, but she isn't sure - have Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. My previous nurse told me I should go to a specialist, as it could render me sterile. "That's not a problem for me," I pointed out. Again, told I would change my mind. I do have the symptoms for PCOS, and if it will render me sterile -- great! Perfect!

Now, when I tell my mother - to placate her and get her off my back - that I might adopt one day, she tells me, "But it's not easy!"
"I know, from the stories you told about adopting me. However, it would be easier for me than going through pregnancy and childbirth."
I really, really do not want children. I would like to do something to help the kids that are in the system, because they're treated like s**t, but I don't want any. It seems that since I'm injured, the pressure has been increasing.

The most annoying part is when a male tries to prove my position to be "wrong" or "ignorant". YOU don't have to push it out, so shut up and screw off. stare

neutral It is kind of hard to harass someone about being child free...there's so much more s**t that people can harass about. Even if they did choose too, you have crap load of stuff you could throw back at them, starting with ignorance towards freedom of speech and choice. stare