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*hugs back* Thanks, it means alot that I have some people to talk to, well, it always does. And I don't think things can get worse than the way it is right now, therefore it can only get better, the only problem is when.. time itself.


Sorry! Don't feel you have to conform to our situations of telling parents. If you feel that you are absolutely ready and capable, thats possibly the best time to tell your parents. I also suggest what Vague suggested to me, PFLAG!

It's fiancé, for a male. Unless you're engaged to a gurl, then she's your fiancée xp



Where do you live?



As for me, I've been out since I was 16, and I'm so glad I am, though it came about badly. I've known since I was 14, and it only even took me that long to accept it because others had teased me about it in Elementary and I didn't want them to be right. 2 years later, I came out to my mother in a fight. Not a good way to do it, but I was desperate. My grades were slipping, and she was going to take away the internet. I blurted out that I was gay and needed the support network. She made me tell me father, because she didn't like keeping secrets from him. He just smiled with tears in his eyes and said he was happy I felt I could share with him. They've both been extremely supportive, and I knew they would be, since they've always had some gay friends.
Right after that, I came out at school. It was easy, because I had just transferred to public( not enough Music/Theatre funding at my private school) and didn't have a history or reputation to maintain. Nobody ever messed with me, I think because they were a little frightened of me. blaugh The only time some jerk said anything, I didn't have to retaliate at all because all the girls in the room started yelling at him. When guys freaked out, I would just say "Don't worry, I won't hit on you. I've got taste." xp and that shut them up.
I like being out, I wear a pride necklace everywhere. It's easier and more fulfilling. But my one problem is how many people still think I'm str8. sad
It's so annoying when they ask if you have a girlfriend, or hit on you and they're the wrong gender. One girl even tried to flirt by saying she liked my necklace, oy!

sweatdrop I didn't know there were spelling differences of that word for each gender.. woops.. ^_~ but thanks for telling me!

I was, maybe 15, 16.. I honestly don't remember. Only one friend knows, she is more like my sister, though, so it was just natural. She is cool with it, but at first she kept laughing. It was unnerving at first. ("Why are you laughing...? Come on, shut up!")

But, this is the complicated part, which I look back at, and think I was really stupid..

I had told my friend, and didn't really keep anything from her, from that point on. But, one day, she was online, and I had said something about it, and it just so happen her mother was in the room. She acted how I expected her too. "You should tell your parents right away." Right, as if it's that easy to tell a Southern Baptist family you're gay. . . Well, the next day, she stoped my mother in the parking lot of school, and *lied* to her about it. She said I was gay, and that I was planning on moving away with some guy named Cody, and that they would never see me again. I was floored, I had no ******** idea what she thought lieing would accomplish. Well, needless to say, I don't trust her anymore..

The only thing is, I'm really *really* close to my mother. She is one of, if not my best friend, so, when she started to ignore me, and act like I wasn't even alive, I went into a blind panic. I missed several days of school, and finnaly, one day, after she came home from work, I told her I wasn't gay anymore. She said why, and I said I read the bible. It was a completly cowardly thing to do, but, as I said, I was in a blind panic. Oddly enough, not 3 minutes later, things were back to normal. For that reason, I think she knows I still am, she just doesn't want to know. They are both Homophobic, so I doubt I'll ever come out.. (again..) But I regret ever "going back in". It was the worst thing I've ever done. Though, I would be shocked if they both haven't heard things "through the grape vine", because several people I knew in school have made comments to me about it, without really out right saying it. (Thankfully nothing bad, yet.)

And, also, when I look back at my childhood, I think it is glaringly obvious. I never really acted "like a boy". I hated cars, and army men, etc etc. I would have much rather had a barbie, and her dream house. Which sounds massivly gay, but it's true. ^^;;

Virginia Beach, VA (go figure). I live like 10 miles from the NAS (Naval Air Station). And Virginia Beach is right next to Norfolk, which is a huge military place.

I began the arduous process at age 16. By age 18, I was completely out, even to my parents. Everyone seemed to take it okay. My mother cried a bit, but she's resolved to deny it to herself. Every time I remind her, it's like I'm opening a sore wound, but I refuse to let her forget something that's so important to me.

Isn't it though? I suppose if I wanted to be nice, I could always pretend to be something I'm not for the rest of my life. I think everyone here would be a lot nicer if we actively sought to be unhappy by pleasing everyone else's delicacies.

My mother is okay, however. She's come to the point where, any time it's mentioned, she lets me know that she only worries I'll do something that will get me in trouble. I love her, but she needs to accept me completely if she wants to have anything to do with my life. I don't think this is a unique or extensive thing for me to expect.

I've only come out to my little brother and my mom, and I think it was last year. At the same time my brother told me he likes guys to.. and a bit more information about an experience with his best friend I didn't need to hear whee

My mom said she has no problem with it, she says its cool that I like both but she would never even THINK of sleeping with a girl sweatdrop

I asked her if I payed her $50k if she would she was still like NOPENOPENOPE! xd

I would never tell my dad tho, he tries so hard to push me into the christian religion, and I tell him that I am one, but actually I just dont believe in it, but he said he wouldnt hate me. It was one of those things with the whole "I wont be mad, just disappointed" things. And when it's that, it's definately a 'dont tell him'. sweatdrop