I can't acurately answer those questions, but I do have an idea on it. I haven't read other posts, so I've no idea if someone else has presented such an idea or something like it.

In any case I had a kind of thought that I've come to believe in, although at times I'd much rather something else ^^'.

I had the idea that everyone has been or will be in eachother's place. What I mean is that...how do I put this....an abusive person has been or will be the victim of the same abuse. When we hurt someone we have been or will be in their place in other lives. I'm not sure if I explained it correctly, but that's the best I can do until someone asks me something specific.